Ugh. Two senior managers at my last job are the main reason why I and several other staff members left. They don’t have the leadership skills, maturity or emotional intelligence to be managers, and are horrible at it. One of the managers (who luckily I didn’t report to) had some staff members work on personal projects…

Totally co-signing this. I’m an editor at a magazine so I have to think about grammar, spelling, etc., all day. When I send non-work emails and texts I let that go.

Yes to all of this! I agree that seeing how your partner reacts to/deals with conflict and hardship before committing to them long-term is HUGE, because that’s a big sign as to what they’ll be like when life’s inevitable big problems and losses happen down the road. Will they have your back and really be there for you…

I wonder what attracts people to that profession other than family tradition (grandfather and father were cops, etc.), which is usually the case in the city where I’m from.

I finally ponied up for Benefit Gimme Brow, after using a cheap brow mascara (Maybelline) on top of powder. When it arrived in the mail, I thought: “I just paid $24 for that small bottle?!” But damn, that stuff WORKS and it’s totally worth the money for me. I really need to start paying attention to cult beauty…

Fuck.

Is that a peat moss mummy?

Have you started looking for a new neighborhood that’s in your budget/has what you need? Don’t mean to give unsolicited advice, but it sounds like you may want to start looking while you have the time, that way you don’t get the shock and the stress of needing to find a new place in just 30 days.

This is amazing. I don’t know why we can’t learn from the good examples that other countries have set and follow it.

Thanks :-) I changed it to that because I moved to Hawaii and they are crazy expensive here.

A similar thing is happening where I used to live in SoCal — it was a neighborhood that was in an old pocket of town, with Victorian homes and old buildings (I think my building was built during WWI).

I was just listening to a podcast about gentrification in the Los Angeles area (it’s called “There Goes the Neighborhood.”) and they cited Santa Monica as an example of what you just mentioned, where the average rent was some exorbitant amount like $3,600 a month for a one-bedroom (and I thought Honolulu was too…

I’m so confused by that sales person. I don’t know why he thought a person’s looks is relevant to soap choice (aside from that being super inappropriate) or how that would help you find a gift for her, vs. asking what her favorite color/scent profile/bath product is. Good lord.

I recently walked into a Lush (after not visiting a store/buying their products for close to ten years), and I couldn’t handle the smell, it was really overpowering.

I think he’s also downplaying the seriousness/commitment level of his current relationship to LW1, either to keep his options open or to give LW1 a false sense of hope/keep her hooked just because he can and he likes the attention. Either way he sounds like a piece of work and so not worth the time.

I’ve heard that too and don’t get it. I live in a really humid place, so to me it’s really gross to go to bed without showering first.

That’s a good point, and you’re right.

Came here to say this. Some people will even still try to gaslight you and make excuses when you present physical proof that they cheated.

This is good to know! I bought a full size recently to try it and upgrade from the $8 Maybelline Brow Drama I had been using for a while.

I’m really late to this post, and there’s a ton of amazing advice here! The best I can offer is some shopping tips for day-to-day stuff: