I’m an image conscious gay man and I understand completely where the letter-writer is coming from. I work out and eat a fairly balanced diet, but I still sport love handles and a small gut. It’s taken a while but I think I’m awesome, and only those who can see that are the ones I allow into my life. I’ve met the vain…

Love seeing more varied and unique letters like this, both in terms of their content as well as the fact that they’re not from heterosexual writers. :) Great advice, too. :)

I hope the comments to this article don’t include a bunch of thinly veiled coded homophobia about how image conscious gay men are. Let’s not be counterproductive and assume all gay men are the same, folks. I mean, the shitshow that erupted after the “cam girl” letter was pretty damn gross, so I’m not expecting much…

To the second guy:

Took me a long time to realize the thought process of “Nice Guy” was really only hurting myself. I have been there, and in the end, honesty won for both parties. She is still a great friend, but I locked that “relationship” door and things have been better since. Best to follow that path LitS

As someone who was emotionally abused for four years in a similar situation, please listen to Dr. N-L and leave them.

For all intents and purposes, this kind of emotional abuser is creating a hostage situation. The only twist is that they’re holding themselves hostage, saying “don’t you dare leave me or the hostage gets it,” while holding the gun to their own head.

Hey AAA, I have BP disorder. It blows. If you have had suicidal thoughts since the age of 6, sought relief via self harm, and are verbally/emotionally abusive to your GF (and prob others in your life from grade school to present day), Please please please go see a Psychiatrist and get diagnosed. There are medications…

Awesome as always, Doc :)

But even if that’s the case, unintentional abuse is still abuse. The fact that it’s unintentional does not excuse you from doing it. If you’re serious about getting better, then you need to take responsibility, and the first step for this is to go into therapy. By yourself.

To the writer of the first letter, AAA, I applaud the fact that you are at least trying to be honest about the situation. And the Doc is right, you need to see a psychiatrist. I’m saying this from the perspective of someone that is open and honest about being in treatment and about my problems. Some of your actions…

For Lost in the Sauce:

And that was completely acknowledged, from what I can tell. The TL;DR version of the article is “You’re asking the wrong person. Stop what you’re doing and go see a professional”.

Holy shit!!! I did not realize how much of an abusive person I am! AAA described me and my current relationship perfectly. My relationship is falling apart and it’s completely my fault. I am sabotaging my own relationship and I didn’t even know it! I am going to seek help immediately and fix my shit before continuing…

Dresden FTW...though...it is ironic given how bad his relationships have been.

Loved the info on the complexity of sexual orientation, I definitely have a lesbian friend that we always joke about how great we’d be together...if I didn’t have a penis and maybe had some boobs. It makes for a great friendship, you get an awesome friend and the completely platonic drunken nights of flirting, that…

Dresden reference?

This is extremely well written.

Wow a person puts themselves out there looking for help and you Internet tough guys just shit all over him. Ever heard of empathy you piece of shit fucks?