Hello, throwaway account for a camgirl here.

Okay, after reading through all of that, I really have to say you are a gentle and patient soul. I hope the guy asking this question listens to your advice.

But the secret of your success... You met her at a bar aka social scene outside of “work.” So technically you don’t fit the survey since you didn’t pick her up on the job. I didn’t ask the question, but I’m assuming the survey is seeking individuals who are wrapping up dinner at a Hooters and tell the server, hey…

As a Phone sex operator I’ve seen this too, but also, just because I’m providing a relationship type service for money doesn’t mean that I don’t care about you either. I’ve been on either side of this equation and they are both just as awkward and just as disturbing when the eventual relationship is broken off.

I’ve worked at a couple strip clubs, and this might come as a shock to a few readers, but strippers are people, too. Some are perfectly healthy, happy people paying for med school. Others are middle-school dropouts ten years later, with crippling daddy issues. Plenty simply get lonely- the single mother who hasn’t…

As opposed to all the other people who have manipulated him before - which drove him to not engage in a committed relationship you mean?

I would say NerdLove summed it up. Dating on hard mode. The 99.99% of them will view you as their job. It’s the 0.01% chance that some people will cling too. Like flirting with bartenders. Don’t. Let her do her job and be pleasant.

Never for a second I ever considerate someone watching CamGirls as someone desperate and lonely. Sometimes, your kinks are just different. Sometimes you like that type of relationship. Sometimes you just don’t have the type of girl you fantasy about close to you. There like a million good reason to watch CamGirls. And…

As someone who’s BEEN a camgirl. I can see this, yeah. There’s those types. It’s not so much that you’re flirting and like them it’s more like ‘Wow, you’re one of the few people aren’t a total piece of shit on this service and I much prefer serving you over the pieces of shit’. It’s like in ANY service position…

She’s a person and let’s not go into immediately “She gives no fucks about you.” (While statistically that’s true)...

The biggest hurdle is the sex work. Before he even entertains the idea of trying for an actual relationship, he needs to be ok with what she does. No if’s and’s or but’s about it. Most guys think it…

I enjoyed this article very much.

Amusingly, I was already listening to Alice Cooper’s “Poison” when I started reading this article...

I signed up to give another shout out for the Buckaroo Banzai reference.
...because no matter where you go, there you are.

+1 for the Buckaroo Banzai reference.

The big problem is that we’re in a crunch time right now where a lot of stuff needs to be filed in a very short amount of time. I try and take care of things that I can while he’s away at work, but there are quite a few things I need him for as well. But, I understand what you mean, and doing things early in the day…

Hello everyone! I’m the writer of letter number one, and I just want to clear a few things up.

Letter writer here.

In every relationship, no matter how egalitarian, there’s going to be some inequality when it comes to the division of labor—both emotional and physical. On the whole, we tend to gravitate toward the relationship maintenance tasks that we’re best suited for. The person who cares more about cleanliness and organization…

LW1, you’re not being a jerk or an asshole. You’re being the adult. Legal stuff that has to get done is way more important than hanging out or goofing off or whatever. Not that there’s not room for both, but one has priority over the other in order of doing them.