Thanks!

No but people can and do regularly get hung up on the woman who sells them the coffee, who knows them by their order, asks them about their day, remembers things they’ve mentioned before, makes small talk if there’s nobody else in line, etc.

Y’know. Kinda like cam girls do.

Do you get this upset over the people who serve you coffee in the morning?

I love my coffee too much to do that.

“A sort of relationship of sorts”. I R GUD WURD MAKER

It’s not his dick. If it were, this would’ve ended five seconds after he got off. It’s in his brain, for all the reasons I went into in the column.

It averages out.

Using a latte of puns is pretty much the worst way to espresso yourself and really just people steamed...

There’s both reason and reward here. The reasons may vary from “Fee for services rendered” to “Trying to buy her affections” to “being generous with someone who makes them happy”. The rewards can be as varied as “seeing a pretty woman do sexy things” to having a sort of low-key, low-risk relationship of sorts. Some…

Because I’m curious to see if I can get this question every week.

I’m a tricksy hobbits that way.

I’m always interested in seeing who gets some of those references.

That would be why my advice was to go ahead and lie about it, yes...

Sounds like the problem isn’t women, it’s the people you’re dating.

If your wife needed paperwork and meetings any number of bureaucratic bullshit in order to not be forced to leave the country where you live, you wouldn’t be working your ass off to make sure she could stay?

Worth remembering: some people are polyamorous and can handle these issues just fine. The problem is what to do when their partners aren’t.

She says it in the letter: she’s always having to tell him “no, we can’t hang out with our friends/ we can’t go do fun things/ you can’t play video games right now” because they need to put more work into getting her legal status sorted out.

She’s always having to be the one to say “no” to the fun.

This has been the dynamic since time immemorial. The only thing that’s changed is that a new form of technology has streamlined the process. The biggest difference between this and the “everyone’s basically fucking everyone else because there’s fuck-all else to do” hook-ups of towns outside of the Five Boroughs is…

Your friends are assholes.

Being assholes only part of the time doesn’t mean they’re not still assholes. Some friend dynamics involve ballbusting but friends either know when to stop or at least know to DO so when asked.

People who double down after being asked to stop? Assholes.

For a lot of people, especially ones with self-esteem issues, random hook-ups aren’t a solution even in the short term and can make a lot of problems worse. Sex isn’t a magic cure-all, even when you think that not getting it is the problem.