I never argued that Jackie should report the crime. I argued that her friends should have tried to get her medical treatment for her severe injuries rather than worry about getting into frat parties in the future- you know, prioritizing her well-being over their own shallow concerns. You can be pragmatic and realistic…

This is not about being an "amazing" person- it's about being a basically decent human being. Your standards for other people's behavior are scarily low if you think 18/19 year olds can't put a friend's who was brutally assaulted needs first. Just because there are a lot of terrible people in no way mitigates their…

I agree that rape victims are often treated horribly by our justice system and society. But you are advocating that it is understandable and OK for bystanders/outcry witnesses to pressure a rape victim into silence to protect their social lives down the line. It may be true that Jackie's friends correctly predicted…

Look, we disagree. I think judging her friends as horrible human beings is totally fitting their actions. You think a rape victim reporting a crime or seeking out medical care is "taking down everyone around them".

The female friend who was so concerned about reputations later told Jackie that she didn't understand why Jackie didn't enjoy her rape because the guys were "hot Phi Si" guys. You keep projecting altruism on her motives to silence Jackie. She wasn't talking honestly with Jackie about the complicated and difficult…

One of them refuses to be interviewed for the article citing loyalty to his current frat. They are all assholes.

Their advice was so far from "sound"- I can't believe you are advocating that it is OK to encourage a rape victim to be silent in order to protect non-victims' reputations.

Nowhere have I criticized Jackie in any of this. I was criticizing her friends for being self-centered callous assholes. You keep making excuses for their behavior as if any of it was motivated to protect Jackie when they were clearly motivated by their own shallow self-interests.

Have you read the article? I'm not advocating for rape victims to turn themselves into martyrs. But if a friend calls you right after a brutal gang rape and you find her beaten and bleeding the only appropriate response is to try to convince her to get medical care. She could have been internally bleeding, not to…

I wanted to add that her female friend didn't want to report it because she was worried about her own ability to pledge the Greek system. She was NOT looking out for her friend but purely considering her own shallow and stupid needs.

She had been brutally beaten and raped and was bruised and bloody when her friends met her outside the frat house. Regardless of making a report to the police, her friends should have taken her to a hospital purely for her to get appropriate medical care.

It's especially frustrating because one of her male friend's initial reaction was spot on: he was horrified and wanted to take her to the hospital immediately. It's just incerdibly disappointing that it was her female friend who talked them out of it. Jackie, the victim, was too traumatized to take any initiative on…

If you read the article one of her friends (a man) suggests taking her straight to the hospital right after her rape. Her female friend starts freaking out about "Jackie's" and their reps in the Greek system getting ruined if they report the rape. The female friend convinces the two male friends (they were all…

LIAR!

I've had the exact same experience. I'm a freelancer and I've even heard people say that they men with kids "need" the job more than a single person or married woman- when everyone needs their jobs for different reasons.

And the truth is most actors do the opposite and require that certain things be done to make them look better- at least in film that is true.

What you said is racist and simply untrue. The worst street harassment that I've experienced has always been by white guys (and I am white). White men have groped me, grabbed me, called me names, and one even slapped me when I verbally fought back. Men of all racial, ethnic, and economic backgrounds do this. Some of…

Hah! So true.

Exactly. I mean, when you're reading minds, who needs to talk?

It really should have gone this way: