Dudes cannot process this as a real possibility. The cultural programming against happily eating a pussy without the hope of otherwise ravishing its owner is strong in this one.

but what if he gets pleasure from eating her out?

She's not saying she won't do other things to pleasure her partner, only that she's closed up shop on the blow jobs. Who knows, maybe she gives a hell of a hand or rim job.

I'm so truly, completely, fucking sick of the myth of false equivalence. What is not to get here? Oral sex for women is not the same as oral sex for men. Most men will get off solely from penetrative sex. Most women will not. Therefore oral sex, (or some other form of stimulation) is necessary for most women to…

Delusional aren't they?

because she had the audacity to declare to all the men of the world they would never be able to put their dicks in her mouth and that is an affront to the very essence of modern maleness - all mouths everywhere should someday aspire to hold their cocks.

AND - the dude snacking at her deli tray does not seem to be complaining so why are we even discussing?

Selfish when SHE'S not getting any? No.

Yes, all of that, too.

They don't fuck because she has vowed to not have intercourse until she's in a committed relationship.

Yeah, but a lot of times guys will say they're into eating pussy, then find reasons not to, or to do it really badly and refuse to take direction, then still expect a cookie for their time. I mean, if a woman blowing a guy started biting at him and refused to stop, you wouldn't hear people telling the guy that he…

For my own reasons blowjobs are not something I do, and can I confirm that there are definitely men who love to give it and get off on giving oral sex and don't mind not receiving. I think it's even easier to find a guy who's up for that when intercourse is on the menu, rather than what she's currently doing, though…

Right! What the hell. Just open your mouth and say, "Hey, I would like a blow job" or some such. That downward head press is super, duper gross and weird. It happened the most in the early college years, and I always refused to do anything once it happened because it was so skeevy.

Oh god, the downward head press. Ballsmcgee knows good and well to NEVER even TOUCH my head when I'm going down on him. It creeps me the fuck out when you see men touching women's heads or holding their hair while they're getting blown - it looks like you're fucking petting her or something.

So because she won't blow you she's a terrible lay? You say this after commenting that 'going down is ok but does nothing for me'?

Limiting - sure. But this attitude that saying she's going to die cold and alone because she won't do it is ridiculous. Again, it's like men think that a blowjob is something they're entitled to as part of sex.

Yeah, she sounds like she's probably a bit of an asshole but she's 100% entitled to do whatever she wants and set her own parameters. It's only selfish if she tries to push a partner into her preferred arrangement. I personally think that it would behoove her to be open to compromise, but it's her life.

i had a boyfriend, from before i realized i wasnt obligated to blow anyone, who just didnt get it that i actually cannot breathe through my nose and when he pressed my head down it was like holding me under water. That was the straw for me i think.

At first, I wasn't completely clear why she felt it was important to announce it, but after seeing some of the comments, I guess it was important to announce it. Good grief, people. Women are not obligated to give blow jobs.

I suppose she's limiting her dating pool, but she's entitled to set her own sexual parameters. I have no doubt she'll be able to meet other men who want to give and are fine with not receiving.