No, what I was saying was that I wasn't going to allow just about anyone to hit on me and that I would tell some guys that I didn't want to be touched/flirted with if I wasn't comfortable. I didn't say that I didn't want overweight men (I'm married to one). I just said that I didn't want overweight AND sweaty guys…

OK, maybe I was too much of a bitch, but I noticed that the bitchy girls got guys too. Anyway, what happened 10-15 years ago happened then. Like I said, I'm married now :).

Some women didn't have to do ANYTHING and they were hit on. Why did *I* need to make an effort?

Sorry...bad influence from Asian beauty standards. Fay mui and fay jai (fat girl and fat boy, respectively) is openly touted by some. I was nowhere close to being a fay mui and saw many fay mui types get boys.

Even if you cried yourself to sleep some nights? I guess if I weighed 150 lb (which would be on the big side for my height) and still had unclear skin, I would be okay, but I weighed just about 100 lb then (under that now that I stopped drinking juice from concentrate).

I was sad that men didn't bother to look at me when I was an undergrad. I didn't understand why. I didn't understand why they didn't consider me desirable when I wasn't unattractive (from a conventional point of view). I didn't like being ignored.

Well, I wanted to feel "desirable" and "hot" at least once. Remember, I was in my early 20s then. Guys not hitting on me at that time made me feel like I would never get married. I would lock myself in my room and cry from time to time. I spoke with people (RAs and even campus therapists) and they would just say…

Really hot guys made me nervous! I flirted with them, but I guess they didn't "get it."

So basically, you're saying that I wasn't pretty when I was an undergrad. Gee, thanks. Oh, and I saw less attractive girls (usually slightly chubby) getting picked up when I was going clubbing while I was ignored. Oh well, those days are behind me, now that I'm a married 30-something.

But what about the girls who LONG for touch/being picked up, but are just not approached? A bit of a devil's advocate question. Maybe things are different now, but when I was an undergrad, I was one of those girls. Men just didn't approach me for whatever reason. I wasn't unattractive. I just wasn't one of THOSE…

Though money is usually the "gift of choice" in my culture (Chinese) and my husband's (Jewish), it would never occur to me to ASK for money. We did have a registry and people on my side were more likely to purchase from it than his (I think for HK Chinese-Canadians and HKers (especially boomers, Gen X and…

I, too, was a kiss-less and a virgin at 22. I was an angry girl, very upset and why I was in such a state - I wasn't ugly. I wasn't fat. My skin had cleared up by then and I wore make-up and looked feminine. But yeah, I wondered. Was I too conservative (I was big on "traditional, family values" and "being proper"…

69"=5'9".

But it's different! Froyo bars = self serve (these days, anyway...the last time froyo was a "thing" was in the late 80s and everything was behind-the-counter).

I understand that this could be an issue if it happened in Iran, but this was in Cannes. Religion is weird.

Had I been a boy, I would have been Aaron, according to the parentals.

She'll either crash and burn before she's old enough to vote (or maybe even drive) or she'll have a decades-long career.

Preppy (foreign) Asian students. I see 20-something Asian guys in Abercrombie t-shirts all the time. Most have accents or are speaking Cantonese or Mandarin, so my guess is that they're not "from here."

Easy. The intern did it.

Hahaha... Basically, they didn't want to see anything blue, green, purple, etc.... browns, blondes, blacks and some reds were okay. I don't think they cared that it wasn't YOUR natural hair colour, since they did not say anything to all the Asian girls who started getting highlights (mostly browns).