apaprently gay people are responsible for homophobia or something

Who’s to say that those straight people hadn’t historically given a fuck about LGBT+ people?

It’s “accepted as part of the culture” by straight people justifying their homophobia

Add to that the fact that it’s still not safe in many places to be LGBT+... yea, it does not surprise me that these things go unreported. Every time I see a negative story come out about any LGBT+ person in any light I know it’s going to make things harder for the rest of us, which is a really unfortunate side affect,…

Agreed. I also think that when your sexuality isn’t normalized and everything is happening underground or behind closed doors, no one’s telling you what’s healthy and not healthy. Too many LGBTQ+ youth still have no idea what to expect or what boundaries they can set for their relationships and encounters.

straight women have NO PLACE in gay/lesbian bars. I don’t care if they’re being harassed by straight men in straight clubs it is not my problem. They don’t get to invade a space that is not theirs

How is it homophobic?

“where it seems almost accepted as part of the culture (“oh they’re just like that”, an expectation presence in LGBT+ club/bar means you’re automatically up for it).” NO. Just stop. Rape/assault/harassment is not part of gay culture, let alone lesbian culture.

It’s the same added burden that women of colour carry when they are assaulted by a man of colour.

In my wild days, I blacked out on a regular basis, but gave enthusiastic consent for sexual activities. (Lots of alcohol mixed with a high sex drive made me incredibly sexually forward.) My partners never knew I was in a black out and I never felt like they were at fault. I wasn’t falling down drunk, slurring, and…

huh? more like a drunk guy kissed me and didn’t remember it = my introduction to ‘black out drunk’.

I think part of the reason that it’s been such a quiet issue for so long in the LGBT+ community is because of fear that it will play into the “deviant sexual predators” narrative that the Right has used in the past to justify their abuse of members of the community.

Interesting question....... Perhaps you can have someone you trust record interactions with you while in such a state? Of course that data would only be useful to you personally, though perhaps that would be enough for you. However I’m not entirely sure of the ethics involved in such a study, if it would even be…

It can also be hard to come forward in a small community, like the LGBT community, because everything is so intertwined. In my hometown, there was a guy who had “inappropriate relationships” with some of my friends (I don’t know the exact details, but they were coercive and had a huge power differential). None of my…

I had the exact same thing happen. I would go to Massage Envy maybe once or twice a year because it was close and affordable. I always request a female therapist. Once I got a dude. I explained “oh I asked for a female massage therapist.” and they shrugged and said that this guy was the only one available (yeah ok).…

On the one hand, I agree. But on the other, this sort of narrative is still fairly prevalent in the US, and we even have jackasses like Kevin Spacey who are actively feeding it for their own selfish purposes.

Cosigned. I go to a local massage school every two weeks and it only costs $30 for a full hour. I’ve been going for well over a decade and I’ve had maybe 5 massages I’d classify as terrible.

I think part of the reason that it’s been such a quiet issue for so long in the LGBT+ community is because of fear that it will play into the “deviant sexual predators” narrative that the Right has used in the past to justify their abuse of members of the community. That’s not to say that it is acceptable or should…

Any business that offers their patrons a safe room to call law enforcement from to report a sexual assault is not a business I can’t even finish the sentence

I wouldn’t enjoy being massaged by a stranger.