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Yikes. I mean, there's some decent advice in there regarding reducing personal risk but why the creepy language about having the "right mindset"? It's like the police basically want to eschew all responsibility for preventing and responding to rape. Big surprise there.

I'm vegetarian, but mainly for health reasons, so I don't worry about ideological conflicts when wearing my (one pair of) leather boots.

There was a time that I didn't understand that buffalo wings were chicken ... when I was 11.

yeah yeah and then we'll eat the Irish etc. etc. lol. You made an idiotic argument on behalf of an idiot and now you're feeling stupid. Just bow out.

On an eggs related note: I didn't know what a frittata or a quiche was until college. But that's because my folks weren't fancy, and I DID KNOW ABOUT OTHER TYPES OF EGGS. ffs

Exactly. Even if he never ordered eggs before in his life, how did he never EVER notice how other people ordered eggs at any other time that he went to breakfast with people? His brain would have to be unable to comprehend, process, and store basic memories. Jesus christ.

No, this is dumb. It would require a lot of willful ignorance. How do you ignore everyone else's breakfast orders that you have ever been to breakfast with in your entire life? It's not possible. This person has to be so stupid that basic things happening in front of him simply CANNOT be processed and stored by his…

Maybe he saw different types of eggs and seriously concluded that they were entirely different food items. Maybe when the waitress finally brought his scrambled eggs he was secretly horrified, believing it to be an unidentifiable pile of animal product, and not an egg at all. And yes, this would make him a very stupid…

Try this on for size: I dated a guy in college and at the age of 20 he had never eaten an egg. Ever. Purely out of lack of interest. He had also never eaten a peach or soup of any kind. The list goes on but those are the big ones I remember.

Own that smugness, girl. Wear it like the crown it is.

lol exactly! It's super romantic! btw he called me "mom" on accident today and it was the grossest thing he's ever said to me. gotta say, this whole wedding planning business is marking a definite slump in our relationship. just all around. cannot wait til we're past this whole idiotic thing and get back to our normal…

Honestly, I could but it would devolve into utter chaos and drama. Then it would most definitely be all about him, like everything else always is. And my mom would probably hold my dress hostage and cancel some huge checks. It's tough because we already have a fair amount of our own money invested in this (security…

Thank you. It would be my dream to walk into SF City Hall and do exactly what you're describing. I could take that secret to the grave if that's what it took. I just need to sell fiance on this.

Thank you. I really mean it. I need to find the strength to stand up to my mom and be assertive. My family is really difficult. I was a bridesmaid for my cousin (same side of the family) and she was the most miserable bride I've ever seen. Seriously, I've never seen someone look so sad all day at their own wedding. I…

Thank you. I can't even tell you how much of a relief it is to feel like people (even on the internet lol) are on my side. It's such an awkward position to be in where everyone is telling me how grateful I should be and how excited I should be about this day ... but really it's just not me. It feels really good to…

Thank you. It's nice to feel like someone is on my side. Sigh. My abuser is my own brother so it would cause huge waves for me to ban him. I've told my mother about it (like ten years ago) but she can't cope so she doesn't believe me. It's tough at every family event. Now that its my wedding I kind of just can't ....…

Thank you for listening and very reasonable advice. It's helping me calm down and formulate an action plan. I'll just be clear: my abuser is my own brother. I hate him. I hardly ever talk to him. My fiance knows all about it and would gladly kick him out but ... again ... it's my own mother that's the roadblock. She…

Thanks. We're trying. It's mostly my own mother who is the roadblock. I like fiance's family just fine. It's mine that's the problem. If I could get hit on the head with a coconut and forget I ever knew those people I'd do it in a heartbeat. I am pushing for him to do a civil ceremony with me in private so we have our…

btw I'm in CA and everything is on FIRE. I wish it was raining. Instead it's ashy and I'm sneezing. So I guess we'll be sniffling together while we eat our takeout. Maybe I'll pop in The Thing to join you on this horror night.