Awesome. I haven’t spent any extended period of time in Amsterdam, but I understand that it’s pretty great.

Do it! Come to New York. There are lots of unmarried, childless 20-/30-/40-/50-something women here.

Why am I coming off as an asshole, exactly? I’ve openly said that I don’t feel the need to have children and I’ve acknowledged that I don’t understand the experience, either of wanting a child or of wanting a child/your own child so badly that you’re willing to spend close to 100K. I said I didn’t understand it and…

As another 27-year-old woman, that’s insane. You’re/we’re so young. Too young to be married, really. You need new acquaintances.

Seriously. My niece is 2 and it’s criminal what my sister pays for preschool.

I hope I’m not coming off as an asshole here because I mean this very genuinely, but I don’t understand why people continue to do this when there are so many children out there waiting to be adopted - newborns, infants, older children, all races and backgrounds. I know that adoption can be expensive, but so is IVF,…

Yeah, it strikes me that a lot of men just don’t understand what “half” actually IS. It’s not even like they’re trying to shirk their responsibilities - there are just so many things that have been ingrained in us as “women’s work” that they sometimes don’t even see some tasks as needing to be done because they’ve…

I’m only 27, but I feel like, having had an abortion, I get to call myself child-free by choice.

I honestly can’t? Because in order to believe that you have to have never questioned anything you were told, no matter how much it seemed to contradict the world around you. And I guess that makes sense if those beliefs benefit you (e.g. straight, white men) but if they don’t? Like, if you’re an intelligent woman, for…

Those people are so mysterious to me. Such a failure of critical thinking.

Well I’d be hard pressed to disagree with that. The whole thing is barbaric.

I knew this was a belief earlier in history, but I actually laughed out loud when I read that it was still held in 1967. It’s so ridiculous that it sort of seems like the kind of statement someone makes to you early on in life that you never really think about, but the second you actually hold it up to critical…

Also, hilarious that the justification was basically that women were too weak and fragile to run the race, but his solution was to physically assault her.

In addition to all the points that everyone has made here, I would object to even a peaceful and painless death at the hands of the state on the basis that simply knowing that the state is going to intentionally end your life and being forced to walk into the room where you know you’ll be killed, to me, count as…

Agreed, but there’s a theory that this reasoning is part of why the LGBTQ rights movement has been so (relatively) successful, in this country anyway. Look at abortion rights, for comparison - that rhetoric is about having a choice, and we’ve actually been continuously backsliding almost since the passage of Roe v.…

Well, I mean, it can - it depends. In Poland, it definitely did not. In the Czech Republic, which was similarly Catholic, it definitely did. As for Russia, I have no idea. I imagine it varies, since it’s such a large country.

Yeah, it looks kind of like a hat. Love it. I wish there was a way to incorporate head coverings into my style without either appropriating someone else’s culture or upsetting the more religious members of my own community.

I guess when I say “problem” I mean “responsibility to correct.”

I bet!

Ah, but whose problem is this?