Seriously. Reading the comment elsewhere in the thread about how portobello mushroom caps only have 35 calories! is making me feel pretty fucking bad about the homemade gnocchi I’m about to embark on.

You know, something that my eating disorder taught me (other than that I had untreated OCD) was that the human body is not a perfectly efficient machine. So, maybe? But probably not.

I am currently childless and will probably remain that way (though I’m still in my 20s so who really knows) and I buy myself Mother’s Day presents “from the cats.”

Yeah, I gather that that’s traditionally how those things work, especially with China patterns. Because there is a TON of that shit if you buy the whole thing. Dinner plates, salad plates, dessert plates, butter dishes, soup tureens, gravy boats, and then allllll the flat/silverware to go along with it.

Probably a couple people will end up splitting it. As I recall, my parents split the place settings from my cousin’s registry with two other couples so it was like $500/person.

Yeah, that’s more like what my parents have (mine is nice and I like it, but $250 for a full set was about what I could swing at 26).

I don’t think asking your peers to contribute to the wedding is a good idea, no matter how broke you are. That would FOR SURE ruffle some feathers, and rightly so. I’d be miffed. If you can’t afford to host me, cool - don’t. I won’t be upset.

I’m pretty sure my flatware was closer to $15-20 a set and I also have 12. Decent flatware is just expensive. The flatware/place setting combo on my cousin’s registry last year was $250 a set (granted that includes dishes, but still. That flatware likely accounted for at least $30 of each set).

Also? Dying from a stranger’s cookies is one thing, but I’d rather not be drugged then raped and/or tortured and/or (more directly) killed by a stranger giving me cookies.

If there are different rules for women than for men and “certain” hairstyles aren’t allowed (like braids or afros), then yep! It is both of those things.

I try. Righteous indignation is kind of my forté.

We’re a very punitive society. I’m sure we all chafed against a dress code at some point, but instead of looking at why that was problematic for us and trying to fix it for others, hey, if WE had to go through it, so do you, cupcake. It’s gross.

Jesus, it’s like people here don’t understand that the very concept of a dress code is intended to enforce class and gender norms. Like, yes, this is sexist. It’s also classist. All dress codes are, and intentionally so.

Thank you, it really does. I’m also relatively certain that my dad has Asperger’s/ASD and I think my mom’s dad did as well. All the things you describe sound very familiar to me.

I’ll have to check it out. I’m not fully certain that I want to know for sure whether I have autism, but I’m always interested in these kinds of things.

I’m glad that you’re telling people. The thing about a missing stair is that everyone knows and everyone warns the important women in their lives about it, but no one ever actually fixes the stair.

I’ll let you know!! I found a recipe that seems so easy I feel like something must be wrong with it. I’d be happy to repost here if it works!

That has been my experience (whether or not I actually do have autism); though rather than “mother hen” I had “I’m going to punish you until you act normally” which was....effective, I guess? Unpacking that in therapy has been part of what led to this conclusion.

Okay, well I can’t be specific, but let me put it this way: she definitely quit. I know this for a fact.

Well if I’m not mistaken, the actress quit, no? So they didn’t have much of a choice but to write her character off.