I’m going to second Zeetal here and say that you also need to go to therapy if she is. That’s just how it works. I went to therapy and both my parents refused and it made everything a lot more difficult for me. Also, if you don’t trust therapy, you’re going to telegraph that to her (just like my parents did) and it…

You can and absolutely should tell your other friends that L is a piece of shit and you shouldn’t hang out with him. It is actually vitally important that you do this. Chances are, everyone else already knows. I don’t know if you’re a guy, but if you are, your word actually, sadly, means a lot more than A’s.

No, it’s never about that - or at least it never should be. I’ve had sex with many people and I think it’s fair to say that I “know what I’m doing” as much as anyone really does, but it takes time to get used to a new partner. Pretty much always. Sex with my current partner was honestly a bit disappointing when we…

Not today, but this coming week to kick off anniversary mini-vacation: homemade mozzarella with tomatoes and homemade sweet potato gnocchi in sage butter. Never made either mozzarella or gnocchi before, so I’m pretty excited.

“many” here being relative, obviously

Nothing you did or didn’t do contributed to his decision, and nothing you did or didn’t do could have stopped him. Even if some of what contributed to his decision to end his life was guilt over what he did to you (and possibly to others), that was his doing and not yours.

WHO ARE THESE MEN?

What do you think about the theory that many - possibly even as many - women have autism, but that the social expectations for us to conform behaviorally are significantly higher and there are significantly greater consequences if we don’t, so women on the higher-functioning end of the spectrum are simply able to hide…

Yep. Plus, any man who would hate you for being a feminist already hates you, and all women. So who cares?

Or more appropriately, that they don’t get there at all. They certainly don’t deserve eternal salvation - not with all the lives they’re intentionally ruining for their own gain.

To me as well, but then there wouldn’t be much of a plot. Like, she’s stable enough now that it wouldn’t be much of an issue: pay out of pocket, make Elijah go with her, complain. Done. 1/4 of an episode arc, max. This is giving them multiple episodes of material.

And what if she’s a smoker? Or drinks too much coffee? The list goes on.

I have found that Thinx work quite well, however?

I still love bad pizza. It is valuable in its own way.

And that is your choice! And I support it. Fortunately, this is not, in reality, a binary choice, and it has been a very long time since I’ve had bad sex, even without much oral.

Yes. I FUCKING HATE performing oral sex (rather problematic since I am a queer lady) and have hated it with literally everyone except my current partner. I voted for bad sex, because sex is like pizza. Even when it’s bad, it’s still pizza.

Yeah, I’d agree - personally, I think trans women actually have it much worse.

But you’re clearly TERF scum. Or maybe not; I have no evidence that you are either radical or feminist.

But if your discussion of your womanhood feels othering to trans women - as it very well may, since this is clearly something you’ve been criticized for - then maybe you should think about why that is. No one is telling you that you can’t talk about your womanhood, but you might be talking about it in a way that…

Comments like this confuse me. I am a white person and I don’t feel like I’m being spoken over and chastised when someone - rightfully - reminds me that I need to consider POC. I am a non-disabled person and I don’t feel like I’m being spoken over or chastised when someone reminds me that I need to consider people…

Incorrect.