The laughter of one's inferiors is a mortal wound, it seems. An erasure of sorts.

(Sorry I know you left a similar comment on another thread and I accidentally dismissed. So ungraying you here. I absolutely agree that it's a result of internalized misogyny. In my case, it had nothing to do with wanting to be romantically desired by men but wanting to be separate from the oppression of women. It was…

You come to an agreement and file the paperwork. No back and forth over who owes who money, no going to court to fight over custody, no arguing over who gets which house or car, etc. I'd say this divorce is harmonious because Paula could nail his ass to the wall and he doesn't want that, so he's agreeing to her terms.

I was once drinking Guinness in college and some guy thought it made me really, really cool. He called over his friends and said "this girl is drinking Guinness"! It was the most attention I had ever received from men and it felt good. I totally understand why young women adopt this persona. However, it ended up being…

Ugggh at people who compliment you when you like man things! This actually doesn't happen to me very often because I tend not to like man things, but I do order whiskey at bars and I always get this, "Oooh I'm so impressed!" reaction from people that makes me really uncomfortable. I do not order whiskeys to be manly…

It doesn't really matter when it comes to others' perception—women who are seen as rejecting femininity as inferior get rewarded (even as they still get punished if they don't simultaneously fulfill their roles as objects of male desire—there's a double bind for you).

Yeah, I kind of love throwing dudes off when I don't fit perfectly in the "Cool Girl" box, by not eating a burger, or explaining to them exactly why what they just said was shitty and sexist. I can curse and make dirty jokes with the rest of them, but I can do that AND be a feminist too.

I am at least glad the phase taught me to enjoy whiskey! Although no matter how hard I tried I cannot get beyond the barest amount of caring for football.

So much this. I have a lot of attributes that would put me in the "Cool Girl" category, and in one particular circle of friends (within a heavily male-dominated hobby, aka autocross) I'm often one of very few women. It annoys me that I sometimes get treated like something special for being a woman who races, like it…

Of course it's not exclusive to women. But it's not the same for men. This is about women being pressured to and rewarded for distancing themselves from their female-ness. Men are not rewarded for distancing themselves from their male-ness. (In fact, men are also punished for expressing traditionally feminine traits.)

If you read an article about a woman being murdered for rejecting a man and you first reaction is "not all menz!!!", you are:

I brought some kitties.

I got to my 20s when I realized "I really prefer to hang out with women." I dunno, I just didn't find that guys were at all reliable after a certain age. Now this is not a slight against women that have male friends, but my deepest friendships are with women. I couldn't relate on heartfelt stuff with a guy.

Twice in two days?

Hey, you idiots who show up on every single one of these stories whining BUT IT'S NOT FAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIIRR TO BE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR SAFETY AROUND A MAN, IT'S LIKE YOU'RE TREATING US ALLLLLLLLL LIKE RAPISTS HOW DARE YOUUUUUUUUU- get back to me when you've figured out how to magically tell the difference between normal…

I'm conventionally attractive for a normal person i.e. not freakishly beautiful like a film star/model but I get a lot of attention when I get dolled up. I do that probably twice a year. The rest of the time I wear unflattering don't-notice-me clothes and glasses, because I don't want to deal with unwanted attention.…

Bitch dared to exist and have pulse in the public. She obviously asked for it.

Between this story and the other one where a woman was killed for refusing to provide her phone number to a man, I'd say it's not an excellent time for me to be re-entering the dating pool. My god!

And "Cool Girl" is more similar to who I actually am than, for example, "Super Shiny Fashion PR Girl" or "Peppy Soul Cycle Sister."

Yeah, I think it's a phase a lot of women go through. I was totally a Cool Girl in high school. I thought that because I like football, video games, comics, and prefer whiskey to vodka I was different from the OTHER girls. I thought I could only get along with my select fellow Cool Girl friends as far as women went…