And the shame is, I've recently developed a fascination with the rom-com as a genre, but I completely agree with you as to modern ones - sexist, misogynistic formulaic pieces of trash. BUT, as a form, it could be so simple and easy, really. Love stories are so essential, that there is no reason why they should be…

I recently joined a poly group because I've been burned so many times in love relationships that I honestly don't trust them anymore. In the poly group you have people openly committed to not only love and finding it in as many places as possible, but also to honesty, openess, communication and understanding. BECAUSE…

Now... That is the kind of honesty required in polyamory. I recently joined a support group for polyamory because I had been involved with someone I had been completely in love with who held an attitude similar to yours. Not only was I in love with him, we had a very long standing friendship (15+ years). When after…

That's not polyamorous which focuses on loving relationships - some of which do become long-term. Usually the partners know about each other and have met one another although they might not be sleeping with one another.

This is just so, so weird. Sex is just about the easiest thing to get. Wasn't there just an article today about the joys of Tinder? Why the hell would any man have a problem finding a girl to have sex with?

Really not singling women out with my comment. I think women are just as guilty of treating men like walking dildos.

I would argue that there's very rarely respect in these kinds of situations, just two selfish people out to gratify themselves with whoever's in front of them. That's fine, just so long as they stay out of the general dating pool!

He he he!!!! :-D Now we're just being children. Besides, I'm a woman and I'm pretty sure a douche is liquid to flush a smelly vagina, so pot-kettle. Anyway. Thanks for helping me procrastinate...

Hmmm. I guess I am sometimes. But then, on the Internet, you sound like a total trollish cunt.

That's true, but you know - cause and effect. I've got no problem calling people out for their ignorance either.

Kyosuke got really defensive when I asked about her transition. I admitted I was ignorant, but my questions were coming from a loving place and she still bit my head off because apparently I was TOOO ignorant. It's okay. I'll have opportunities to learn in the future. I guess she felt empowered to let off steam at…

Right, you're just passing more heartache off to others so they then will feel shitty about humanity and the world. It's not good life advice to treat people badly in order to make yourself feel good.

"How fucked up is that?" It's super fucked up.

Well, yeah. I think that's the sentiment I was going for, but you said it better :-)

DUH, people are not cars because people have feelings and cars do not. THINK about how the other person feels before you go about "test driving" their emotions.

Yeah... BTW, thank you for engaging in this discussion with me :-)

Sure. Just make sure you're not getting jaded in the process. Love is as natural as orgasms. Don't close yourself off to love. Don't use people as walking dildos. Respect the real connection you have with them, however brief. Be REAL and you should be fine... and DON'T LIE!!!!

Um, people are not cars. The chemistry and trust wasn't there for a really mind-blowing experience. Sorry, but a really good casual sex partner is as difficult to find as a long-term relationship candidate.

Addendum: Although I've done this... just saying that some of the people I did this with, I don't think it was fair to them. In one case, I actually really manipulated a guy into cheating on his girlfriend. When he cut me off, err, before the deed was done, I started crying about my recent breakup. I know what I did…

Well said!