That literally sounds like the worst idea ever unless it's a hippy commune and free love actually includes love. Otherwise, your opinion of the dating scene just emphasizes the coldness I've been experiencing lately. Everything is light and cool and "fun" until somebody has a bad day and actually needs emotional…

Christ, it's too much to ask someone to even like the people they fuck!

Welcome to modern life.

Girl, get those big pants on, because this sounds like a full grown Man-child. What you have described is a relationship and if a 30-something man can't admit that, there's something wrong with him!

And nowhere does the word "love" or the idea of falling in love come into play? Sometimes people fall in love with each other, and then they want to make children together and live together and experience life together. Sometimes you just don't respect the other person enough to allow them that close to your heart, or…

Dude, you're totally missing the point. "Hanging out" means you just want to fuck them while keeping your options open - either 'cause you're already fucking other people and want to keep it that way, or you're waiting to meet someone you actually like. "Dating" means you actually want to be around them and be…

I agree with you. Problem being I think people so often turn off their feelings so that they can engage in multiple casual relationships or are too afraid to effectuate the vulnerability necessary to really love.

No, when a guy asks to "hang out" but doesn't want to take you on a date, he wants to fuck you but not give you any ideas that it will go beyond that.

Naww, really? I never woulda guessed...

It's not that. It's more that most are into casual sex than dating. I mean, why would you really bother getting to know someone if you could just go back to that person's house and have the freedom to do that with the next ten people you meet, too?

Agreed. If you are doing polite "right" you are Genuine about it and truly care about the other people. That's how those rules were developed. If people are fake and are actually selfish assholes, well, there's probably no hope for them but at least politesse will soften the blow.

Well, to be polite is to be empathetic, in my opinion. It is a way to spare others painful or embarrassing situations. We all have acceptable roles to play and for those who were raised to be aware of others', it's still possible to read another's action through the politeness and still get the message. Politesse is…

Somehow the thing that is lost in all of this is that POLITENESS IS MEANT TO BE GENUINE.

Ughh, are you serious? The "default state" is to be an asshole?

Right... if we followed the edicts of Jezebel to the letter, we'd be indulging every urge (sexual or otherwise) so long as we're "proud" and "own it." I guess I don't understand how we're supposed to shame people for being sexist/racist because we want to respect all human life, but then deny that basic courtesy to…

Ahhh, if you're not advocating screwing a different dude every night, Jezebel doesn't care!

Ha ha! Right and you only have to consult the doctor AFTER in the case of men!!! LOL!

Why do we look to these pop stars thinking they're going to say anything insightful? They're not paid to be insightful, or even intelligible. Just let them be pretty in magazines and on stage and let their managers and PR agents talk for them.

Ugh... it should have been me! I was the one on the lease, but I was also 19 years old and these people were half the time on the streets or going to rainbow meetings and even though I thought what they were doing was really bad for the dog, I thought these people had even less going for them. Bad rationale, I guess.…

I used to live with a couple who would constantly blow weed smoke into their puppy's face and then laugh when the puppy (still a few months old) would stumble around disoriented).