I don’t know how many times I’ve asked my female friends or girlfriends, if they hurt, why are you wearing them? It’s great that you think they’re cute, but is it REALLY worth the cuteness? The answer is invariably yes. Though it’s even worse with girlfriends because I don’t really care for the cuteness but I’m still…

You’ve had that picture ready to go for just the right moment didn’t you?

I feel like calling them babies is giving them too much credit. Babies at least don’t know any better. These assholes do, or should. There is no way to read about or hear the sorts of threats that these women receive and not say that is simply unacceptable and contemptible. There is no rationalizing it. There is no…

Uuuuuuuuhhhh, pretty sure the flip flops are the best things about any of these pictures.

If there isn’t much difference, then why is it that we constantly hear all of the negative things men do in relationships? I have never seen a woman respond, oh but we do those things too, so it’s not helpful to treat it in a gendered manner.

I suppose you take what y0u can get. But yeah, this basically read like: “there are studies that dads might actually bring something to the table on childreaing, but moms can also do it all too, so dads might not really contribute all that much. Happy Fathers day!”

Yeah, seriously. But baby steps I guess. At least there’s some recognition there somewhere that dads also play an important role in parenting, even if it’s all couched in, but yeah, moms do that all too.

Wait, you’re saying not to gender things.....on Jezebel? Every problem discussed here is done so in a gendered way. Rape and sexual assault are treated as things men do to women, even though women do them to men as well. Because it’s more prevalent. Why is it now all of a sudden unhelpful to deal with things in a…

You seem to be assuming quite a bit from him, I’m saying we just don’t know enough to make those assumptions, and I think he’s not a reliable conveyor of the situation to be able to leap to the conclusions you’ve made.

Didn’t you reply to someone else in this thread that reduced everything to boners? You didn’t chide them for it. So why come to me? You laughed. Like the guys that think FHRITP is funny. Oh look, I’m talking about the other sex’s genitals, hilarious!

While the replies in this thread don’t focus on appearance, as they often do, they do still put all of the onus on us. If we have a problem finding someone, there must be something wrong with us, as though there are all these great women out there and if only we fixed ourselves it’ll just come easy.

How many relationships have you been in with women? I accept that men tend to be more physically abusive in relationships, but in my experience, women tend to be more emotionally manipulative. Humans are imperfect and both genders can do crappy things in relationships.

Leave for what, someone else that’s just as likely to do the same thing? Unfortunately, that perfect person out there doesn’t exist. So there’s always going to be some bullshit that we need to deal with.

That’s fine and good for getting dates, but it doesn’t deal with what seems to be the issue with those seeking advice related to the OP, which is how do you deal with the toxic things that women can do in relationships. Just as women look for advice for the things men often do, it would be good to have advice for the…

No, but there is plenty of talk abhout us having mother issues, the op brought up the idea of being a mama’s boy. Don’t women stay clear of those? So what’s the difference here?

Isn’t this the other way around though? Women do just as many fucked up things in relationships as guys do. But this is some weird psychoanalysis saying that it must all be based on a screwed up fatehr-daughter relationship, when in truth, she’s probably just a crappy person and her father doesn’t have anything to do…

Ther’s such a thing as being slovenly, and being slovenly isn’t attractive to either men or women.

Good point

Why would I feel oppressed? There are guys that boil everyone down to their genitals too. Men and women can be equally shitty. Equality.

#notallwomenhere