Lol, well I noticed you can’t point to anything substantively wrong with what I said.

I think the trick is not to marry a hypocrite. If you’re dating someone that says she believes in equality, but insists on traditional genderroles for YOU, like buying an expensive ring or paying for all of the dates, she’s not worth it. She’s not really looking for a partner. Of course, studies have shown those women…

Your comment is basically #notallwomen, sure, but rare is still rare. The problem is, this isn’t exactly an early conversation in the relationship, so it’s hard to know early on whether the womqn you’re dating really belives in equality, or if she’s just hypocritical about it. One way to find out is whether she’s also…

Way to prove his point. Staying single, unless someone that’s truly worthwhile and wonderful comes around (yes, they are out there), avoids women like you who are resentful and can’t accyrately read studies.

I’m glad this has so many stars because that’s a crtitical part of the bigger picture here. They don’t need to be FIFA Lite

Good luck getting through to that bigot. She genuinely thinks we take violence against men, largely considered expendable, more seriously than violence against women. As though a woman that was engaged in domestic violence against a male partner was more likely to be punished. Hell, bigots like her don’t even think…

This is Jezebel, they think white women IS diversity.

There were black soldiers in WWI. Tbere were zero sword weilding Amazons.

Thank you so much. I agree in theory, but I think I’m also just very risk averse. I already try my best to show that I can be strong and confident, in addition to just being kind and caring. But if I open up, even on the off chance she believed me, the likely reaction from anyone I’ve been with would likely have been,…

These stories of doctors using their trusted position to do such horrible things is heartbreaking and enraging. I hope and I’m sure you’ve managed to grow and heal. More power to you.

It wasn’t a recurring thing for me, and I didn’t even know how wrong it was until I learned later that, yes, I have the right to consent too. I’m so sorry to hear that you went through such abuse so much. Once is already too much. All my best to you.

How awful for a doctor to use such a position for their own sick abusive fantasies. I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m glad you were able to eventually talk about it and get some healing.

Thank you for this, I hadn’t really thought of other victims being helped. Though I’m convinced reporting will only initiate laughter and skepticism.

Wow, I’ve got to say, I’m honored by the support, which is honestly unexpected. But I definitely never thought saying anything could be helpful to others. That to me is far more important than dealing with my own demons.

I’m totally with you. The support from folks here is incredible and warms my heart, but I don’t seek it and don’t like drawing attention to myself for this. But being able to say something did happen to me, when many believe that’s not even possible, is somewhat cathartic.

Ha! You are awesome and you have a very important skill. I’m glad you’re using it for good!

“They can somewhat deal with black men,”

Thanks, I appreciate that. Not sure what compelled me to write that post. Broke down and overshared!

There are times I wish I could still report my experience from years ago, but I couldn’t handle the disbelief and victim blaming. I can only ever speak of it anonymously. My SOs certainly can never know.

I think that’s the only possible moral position on this. I really don’t see why this is difficult. You cannot force someone to be a parent against their will period.