I agree. So tell that to all of the commenters boiling it down to boners.

You’re assuming he didn’t look at anything else. We don’t know. All we know is what was in the article. Since she saw himn for years it’s obvious they covered other issues. She didn’t keep seeing him over and over just to talk about how she looked. But we don’t know the extent of what that was because the article was…

I wasn’t the one that reduced guys to boners, that was Jezebel. I’m just using the lingo here.

Yeah, so she REALLY cares about boners. That’s the point.

Yeah, the “men will fuck anything” trope is complete nonsense. But it’s mostly women that say it. So how do they square the circle when they claim that men have no standards but don’t want to be with them?

I don’t get this idea of gendered assumptions of what women should look like. People are attracted to what and who they’re attracted to. It’s not something nefarious.

Yep, absolutely. In fact, the fact that he kept trying to approach the matter “as a straight male” instead of “as this woman’s therapist” is exactly the problem. A friend might be able to offer advice as a straight dude and say, well, “here’s what I think might improve your chances with guys from a guy.” But that’s…

“When did men become so base and weak that they consider nothing else but “hot/not hot” when choosing a partner?”’

Yeah fair point. And it’s wierd that this guy realized that he was out of his element, but still felt the need to pen an article about approaching the issue in a way he shouldn’t have.

I know the story. Would it help if I said main star, instead of main character? Because that’s what I meant. Which should have been clear on this complete tangent. But fine, I used the wrong term. Thank goodness you were here to correct me.

Yeah, I mean, I’m no therapist but I feel like if she says that she feels attractive, then he should turn to other avenues or form of questioning. I mean, he could still be right and maybe she’s deluding herself, but if that’s the case isn’t her self-delusion the REAL issue and he should deal with that rather than…

But there’s a difference between knowing what you could/should do, and being willing to do it. I mean, I could improve my attractiveness if I worked out more often and went to get all of my clothes tailored. But I don’t because there are other things I’d be doing and spending my money on.

Top billing went ot him. Movie posters say the movie stars him. Describing Revolori as the co-star is entirely accurate. It’s not about who the story was about, it’s which of the cast was given the most prominent role. Two different things.

Yeah, but that’s kinda my point. While it’s certainly true that beauty standards are oppresively marketed at women, there are standards for men that are marketed, just a bit less aggressively. And women have no problem telling guys that have problems dating to get better clothes and go to the gym, as though that would…

That’s a good point.

That seems a strong assumption. I’ve seen and worked with plenty of successful professionals that don’t really know how to put themselves together.

The only reason I said what I did was because I’ve seen what folks here have said about the matter. So yes, I do have an idea based on the history of comments.

Yeah, I mostly just wanted to make a Danny Glover joke really.

The main character was Ralph Fiennes, but you are right about his co-star.

Where’s the model type come in? Was Greta just looking for a model type, and that was her problem?