I want them both for Christmas.

I think you mean a scotch.

Damn, this song is sad but the way Jackie sings it makes you want to dance, and kind of hopeful that whoever he's singing to really will come home.

Aww, that's what I'm talking about! A little positivity about getting back out there goes a long way towards cheering me up. I know there so many others out there, and I've never been one of those to complain that "all the good ones are taken". It sucks to have lost this nearly ideal person, so I'm a little more down…

This is all so thoughtfully said, and so so comforting as well. You're so right that our friendship needs to be based on something new, which is making me feel very much at peace about taking my time right now. And of course you're right that I shouldn't waste my time comparing myself to others, but put that effort…

Cheers! Though my bottle of white is long gone, I'm still riding the tipsy wave and am happy to do virtual shots with you!

Awww thanks :)

Oh I'm so glad, and I know exactly what you mean. Half the reason I peruse the open threads is so I can find out if anyone is experiencing/wondering the same things that I am. And it's always so comforting to know I'm not alone. :) Hugs to you.

Ha, EXACTLY. Like, I was so specifically attracted to him (both looks and personality wise) that the idea of finding someone I'm that drawn to again seems unlikely. But I think space and time will help with that, but that's definitely on my mind right now.

HAHA! It would be so funny if it was the same dude. I guess we'll never know, but thanks for the apology just in case. ;)

Thank you so much for the words of wisdom. And as far as the friend group thing goes, I feel you. The previous guy before this one shared a friends with me, including our work acquaintances. It's been delicate, but even though I had wanted to see him I have worked diligently to protect my heart by trying to avoid…

I'm so, so sorry. I'm grateful that this ended fairly early on instead of later. I think the best thing is just to let yourself feel the hurt and feel the sad. Then, when you're good and bored with that, you can start planning all the fun things you want to do/normally do that you haven't been in the mood for in…

Those are lovely stories. Thanks so much for sharing, and double thanks for the vote of confidence! I am bummed because he stands out as exceptional among other doobs I've dated, but I think he (like the others) will lead me to the next good thing. And I also know what I want in someone now better than I did before.…

Can I just say thank you so much for saying this? So sweet of you to point it out. I haven't thought about it in these terms, but you're right, he wouldn't have taken the time if I didn't really matter to him. I hope that him and I can be friends at some point (maybe in a couple months), because you're right, he does…

I know what you mean. It's good you are easing into the "are we on the same page" conversations, though. I think 3 months is a good point to determine where you each are at. Remember to stay true to what you want out of this, and to walk away if he's not willing to work towards that with you, even if that's a slower…

Awwww, this is so sweet, thanks for this! I have been having a lot of fun cooking tonight, so I'll have to just have to try this out next! :)

Well, I think it was that he really did like me and continued to date me/be affectionate, but after awhile realized that he didn't feel the "spark", so to speak. I mean, people date to try other people on for size. Looks like I just didn't fit. But I get what you're saying. He was a little misleading in his actions,…

Of course! I think you'll be pleased. :)

Sorry to say it's pretty sheer, but it layers beautifully so after two or three coats it looks like what my nails should look like bare if I lived in a fairytale. I do have a very light skin tone though (pale redhead here). And though it isn't totally opaque, it's a nice solid color that doesn't have a ton of shimmer,…

You're probably right. On one hand we seem like a natural fit for friends, because we're in the same professional world and have people/places in common. But it would suck to meet up with him in a couple months and find out he's dating some new cool person. So, I'm trying to be open to the friends thing while still…