The waitresses life isnt destroyed, dick, because at most she'll get fired. Im a waitress who has been fired. I am currently employed as a waitress. Calm down.

No, no, no — calling out racism isn't adorable anymore (it used to be; white people used to love it). T-shirts are adorable forever. Maybe you should sell the shirts and donate all proceeds to S.C.R.A.M. (Servers Chafed by Racism Accusations and Meanness). Remember: This woman's life has been destroyed.

But there was a "scrubby looking" white dude panhandling at the entrance to the restaurant and he was not tossed out.

yes. Thats EXACTLY what I was saying!

Its not adorable? But I already had a tee shirt made!

You had to use the word "scimitar", didn't you?

Are you black? Do you know how it feels to be harassed because of your color?

"Pulling the race card" = "making a white person uncomfortable"

Some privileged dumbfuck who's never worked in a service job, looks like. Nobody who has ever worked as waitstaff would think that an anonymous firing is life-destroying.

"and try to actually figure out a situation before screaming"

If only the waitress had done this...

I do agree it's always best to only see one side of a story at all times.

hmm. Well, when I first saw my husband i thought he was cute. We were friends for about a year and the tension started to build up about a month before we actually made out (Bee tee dubs we first kissed and boned on the same night *slanty face*). I knew I wanted to be physical with him while we were still just…

Good one, random commenter. I love a bit of "well, what about the other side of the story? What if he was really brandishing a scimitar and NOT 'just a book' as he claims and then he actually threatened the waitress with said scimitar while screaming rants about the jews controlling hollywood? She would have been…

Im going to hazard a guess that that hoodie alone cost more then some of my entire outfits #targetforthewin

He straight up said there was a white man there who was actually begging for change and no one said anything to him. So obviously you are wrong.

LOL, OK

Fuck the fuck off, seriously. Like you've never left the house in a hoodie. Give me a fucking break. He is not dressed like a bum.

I think that stuff can change. I was friends with my husband for years before I noticed anything physically attractive about him. It was a very weird and sudden realization. As to how much time you give it, I don't know.

I think the sizzle can develop, as long as there is some level of sexual interest on your part. Does the thought of sex with him do anything for you? If the idea grosses you out, then forget it. It'll never work. But even if you have curiosity, rather than rabid lust, I'd say that's workable.

I think chemistry can develop, especially if everything else about him is great. Also I think that stomach-dropping lust fades pretty quickly to something a lot more comfortable for most people. It's definitely fun while it lasts, but I don't know if it's essential for happiness since it seems pretty ephemeral to me