That's what I figured. I guess it's the faux-objective veneer that pisses me off. People who renounce relationships with women but externalize their motives instead of owning their issues.

OK Jezzies I am seriously asking for your help. I have learned that anything related to MRA, red pill, PUA and sometimes even love-shy smacks of misogyny. My question for y'all is, has anyone run across "Men Going Their Own Way"?

OMG he needs to be the mascot. I would lend my illustrative powers to creating a Sheltie-themed logo but surely you have greater talents at your disposal... congrats on launching your own foodery!

My point is that driving defensively means you are constantly mindful of possibilities like this. I would be absolutely traumatized if I hit anyone. Even if it's 100% their fault I'm not gonna be able to just shrug it off and suffer no emotional toll. People make mistakes but most of us have opportunities to get it…

I would love to plant this imagery firmly in the minds of all the drivers hurtling past me on dark highways, whipping around me and passive-aggressively neglecting to signal, because any vehicle going the speed limit is just a fucking obstacle to them.

unless s/he has a friend blow into it, of course

OOOOOOOOOooooh, Hendricks... but you gotta try it in a Pimm's cup. (What gender drink is that, anyway? I'm nervous because I have no idea how I'm being stereotyped when I order one)

True. It's reckless and impulsive. The teens love the dysfunctional romances (Twilight) as do adults, honestly (Wuthering Heights).

I am aware that the porn industry has a history of exploiting women, and it can be said that it caters to male concepts of women as a commodity. I can't argue that porn is largely sexist, just as many industries are sexist. However I don't think that these conventions are a necessary and inextricable part of porn…

Kids that age are caught up in sexual infatuation, hormonal intensity and obsession that isn't often replicated in adult relationships. This was about two people driven by that, risking their lives for it, and it makes good drama. Shakespeare knew what he was doing.

It's a re-imagining of Dangerous Liaisons/Les Liaisons dangereuses — which I still totally dig.

My sister felt the same way; she told her teenage son that she accepted that he watched porn but was very outspoken about it depicting women in submissive roles. I am sure your daughter is better off for having you express the importance of consent and body autonomy.

The overall numbers are still higher for male-on-female violence than female-on-female or female-on-male.

Statistics, please.

Hilarious. Even if that were true, man-hating =/= murder.

I think we make this connection because we are wearily familiar with the hostile responses from lots of men when rejected. It's not as if we always expect them to lash out physically, and obviously murder isn't something everyone is capable of, but it's hard not to see it as part of a larger pattern when there have…

How about , "how many women go around stabbing men because they were rejected?" Please let me know when it occurs with anything close to equal frequency and we can dismiss the gender implications. Women tend to see this as a pattern because many of us are familiar with being met with hostile, if not violent,…

I'm so glad you said this. I have always suspected that while society pays lip service with anti-bullying campaigns, the problem never gets solved because bullying is in the end considered too valuable a skill to let go. It gives people a competitive (capitalist) edge. Until the core values change, as you say, it…

doctorate in armchair psychology !!!

Well you're right — I think in the end, he's the one who suffers the most from his "standards". I just wonder what he looks at when he sees a woman. She is utterly untouchable unless she is the photogenic ideal of womanhood? Seems like someone who objectifies women to that degree doesn't really like women, for…