A guy tried to ask me if I was into ass play. I said, "Sure. I don't have a problem with getting out the strap on." He didn't like that answer very much, but I have been laughing about it for years.

My crush on him started when he played a sweet male prostitute on "Absolutely Fabulous."

Germaine Greer once said in an interview that "men are very fragile".

Ani Difranco wrote this song and started it performing just weeks after Columbine. It's still both incredibly powerful and depressing as all hell:

My favourite is how men go on and on about how "the best man...person for the job should always be hired", but if the right man happens to be a fat woman, OH LORD watch them backpedal!

Just to play devil's advocate we all know about men who dress like a "ho" in tank tops and shorts and then complain when they get objectified by gay men at a bar.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Paula Deen is also really, really sad. Maybe Katie would like to do a write up about how we should all just be more understanding of her feelings. Her racist feeling.

Exactly. One year later and grown adults still insist that a boy who posted a photo of a passed out girl being manhandled with a mocking comment is "kind". One year later and they still apparently have anger directed at a blogger who brought attention to the situation than to the boys who raped that girl. One year…

Linked to this article from Deadspin and, as a white-privileged-man, instantly lost almost all of the respect I had for Jezebel. I had always assumed it was a feminist site that dabbled in things that its target-demo (young, feminist women) found interesting with a hint of smug attitude (much like Deadspin does with…

I take issue with the idea that he can behave any way short of rape and so long as he isn't the one who actually penetrated her, then he's a good kid who has gotten a bad rap. The whole next section is poor Cody Saltsman, people have a low opinion of him now, and what's going to happen to his scholarship? How about…

Commenters in another thread pointed out that people in the town still describe Saltsman, the boy who took the photo of the victim hanging helplessly by all fours, and tweeted it with his disgusting comments attached, as the "kindest boy you’ll ever meet". I hope, of the sake of humanity, there are kinder boys out…

I'm not asking for remorse. I'd settle for not "but what about ME?!?!" in response to someone else's tragedy.

The town wasn't destroyed for what two people did, it was destroyed for what so many refused to do.

I don't feel bad for them. They created the culture. The posts by all of the students condemning the girl certainly shows who's side they were on. And they didn't act very quickly to bring the boys involved in for questioning. I don't necessarily agree with the tactics of Anonymous. And I certainly don't believe in…

Yay!!! Time for the Spaced gifs!

I hadn't paid much attention to him before Stoker came out, and I was astonished that someone I'd dismissed as a standard network-TV hunk would write something like that - something with a female protagonist who has a sex life but isn't a sex object, something that understands how a man can be an object of mystery and…

Yes, because coming out is so simple. It was even easier 10 years ago. There are no complex personal concerns like losing your family and friends or destroying your career. /sarcasm

Geez, that's a lot to put on one guy's head, don't ya think?

Sure, I want more people to come out, but fear is a powerful thing, and I'm not going to judge someone to the point of basically assigning responsibility for the deaths of children because they were afraid to come out and even lied about it.

Fuck, no…

and can we all just say a big "thank you" to him for Stoker while we're here? k thx bye