I've found that no matter what tactic for a pleasant letdown I implore, I will come across men who plain old don't give a shit about my feelings and will be super persistent. I'm pretty thankful when a guy just simply takes my "no" for "NO," because it is a rarity that I'm not hit with some snide remark.

Yeah, I totally relate to your post. My 7 year old daughter is getting a little round and my husband keeps saying these semi- awful things to her. I can't stand that shit, and since he has never had people be critical of his size he simply has no idea. I refuse to perpetuate this cycle. And I really think it is a…

My stepmother would list everything she ate during the day, and make me do the same. That was the majority of our dinner conversations. That and what the scale said that morning. Fun times!

Hah, I wish I had this type of parent. My mother was the complete opposite - watched us eat like a hawk, told us not to eat so fast, glared and sometimes spoke up if we went for second helpings, all because she was afraid of us being fat. To say it made me develop an unhealthy relationship with food is...an…

I think it's sexist, the benevolent kind. Which, the thing about that is that it can be more pernicious than the hostile kind, because it's more insidious. Both types of sexism maintain inequality.

I am offended, or at least as offended as I, Sir Darkfalcon, can be about your rude comments about so-called Anti-Paladins. I hold open doors because I do not know if the feebler sex can withstand constant door opening on their own. Once, and only once, I was opening a door while some knave was also opening it from…

The difference between holding the door for people and chivalry is that chivalry makes it all about the performer, not the person they're supposedly helping. If I get to the door first, I'll hold it open for the people who are directly behind me, and longer if there's someone who looks like they could benefit from the…

Agreed. I like it when people open doors for me or hold them open, but not JUST my boyfriend who almost never does 'cause he's like that. I've had a guy or two hold my chair for me and it kinda feels nice but its also kind of weird. I'm fat and they always SHOVE me into the table and I have to adjust anyway. It also…

Because a potential husband might? I am so sorry this happened to you. It's unconscionable, but you know that. Reading that made my blood boil.

I have a co worker who openly brags about calling babies "it". I asked her "would you call your dog an it?" her response "well a newborn doesn't have the higher intelligence of an adult and they can't talk" "Neither do dogs..."I wanted to smack her.

Yeah, my stepdad does the car-door-opening for my mom, but he's like 80. I've never understood it though, because he walks so slow and she's just left standing there, waiting, until he gets there. The first time I saw it, I actually said to her, "what? Is your arm broken?" In a day of remote door locks, and it's not…

As a women/female type person, I hold the door for the people behind me or people going the opposite way of me. It's not a feminist thing but a polite thing. Hell, my kid hold the door for so many people that I wonder if doorman/door person are their future jobs. When I have a shit ton of stuff or the kids or…

Well, he might be an anti-paladin as well, the sort of guy who goes about doing all those things so that he can make a fuss about either vicious straw feminists who assault him when he opens doors for them or hypocritical straw feminists who demand these services but then also want equal pay and equal rights.

My rule of thumb is if the door will close on its own before the person gets there then I don't hold. There is something frustrating about grabbing a closing door even if the person had no idea that there was someone behind them. Where you going door, swing the other way now please.

I don't really enjoy hanging around with babies, either, and I avoid this. I don't find pregnant women or the concept of pregnancy disgusting, not that they should care what I think about the state of their bodies in the least; but here are some things that I do happen to find disgusting:

Yeah, I get it: he's trying to play the shining white knight.

I never understood the whole, "opening doors for women makes me special!" mindset. Like, really? I just open doors for everyone because it's a nice thing to do. I have a friend who fucking INSISTS on opening the car door for his wife. It's weird to me. I mean, I don't run my wife over with the car when we drive…

Yeah, when I read that line, I thought "Fire is too good for him".

"...this one dude I know who told my friend he found her special-needs child 'depressing'"

Spare me the passive aggressiveness. If you like his shit, great. But don't act like I don't "get it" or that I'm tone-deaf to what he's doing. I understand his crap. I just don't like it.