Wow. That was really something. It’s staggering the way he immediately interrupts her to accuse her of being “aggressive” when she is the epitome of cool and collected. That self-satisfied grin on his face is infuriating. 

I did a quick and dirty translation for people who want to witness this (thanks for sharing and for the further context!) This man is FUCKING INSANE and I can’t believe he’s not in jail or worse.

Razor-sharp analysis. There’s a lot of misplaced anger & fear when women blame other women. The unshakeable thought that “It could have been me” is the root of all of it, and since people don’t like to feel vulnerable and terrified like that, some lash out.

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Identifying with a victim’s situation, social-location and/or trauma makes women feel so incredibly vulnerable that they start building walls immediately instead of empathizing. “That couldn’t be me because of ___” is easier to stomach then “There but for the grace of God go I.” I see a parallel in dudes who are like,…

he’s not going to abuse ME because I’m the only one who loves him and treats him well.

We always want the bad thing not to be our fault. What’s the first thing people ask when they hear someone has lung cancer? “Did s/he smoke?” And if the answer is yes, you can think, OK, I don’t smoke so lung cancer isn’t in my future - when of course we know that non-smokers can get lung cancer. After Sandy Hook, I…

I think that ties into #8. You hear a lot of “couldn’t be me” when something happens. After the Kavanaugh hearings, I was watching a panel of people on CNN who were asked what they thought and one woman said she 100% believed Christine Blasey Ford. Another woman who did not believe Dr. Ford was like, well, I know if I…

You wasted your time, it takes a certain level of unabashed assholery to willfully overlook the actions of a GROWN ass person and focus on the actions of an impressionable child...

I think maybe on some level that’s why they attack the victims. Like, if you know that it could have been you at any time, for no good reason, just because you happened to catch the eye of a sexual predator, that’s scary “go hide under your bed and never come out shit”. But if it’s their fault, and they did something…

Teenagers are young and hormonal and up for anything.  That’s why it’s incumbent on adults to not let them sign up for stuff they might not understand the long-term effects thereof.  Any adult who takes advantage of a teenager like that should take an L.  Besides, there are plenty of hormonal teenagers around for them…

Agreed, there is always someone trying to point out that they knew, or wanted it or got burned because they played with fire.  This is why they cannot consent, because they are considered mentally undeveloped, no matter what some creepy ass says.

Oh no doubt. I stated in a different post that I briefly met Kitti Jones on one of the aforementioned tours. She was basically held prisoner and wasn’t seen much if at all. I remember backstage that nigga never allowed anybody to use their phones... Didn’t matter who it was. If you were caught using a phone or taking…

Jeffery Dahmer preyed on Black men too. I’m sure there are other bodies dumped somewhere.

What’s heartbreaking to me is there are a LOT of black women defending R. Smelly and blaming the girls! I stopped going to the girl who does my hair 3 years ago because of her defense of R. Kelly!

Not only is he creepy, he is super vengeful. I find the fact that he is using his considerable cred, money and resources to pushback against these women and not the company making the doc quite telling.

This dude is so problematic I don’t even know where to begin. I have stated here on the Root multiple times before that I unfortunately had the opportunity to witness some of this shit up close and in person since I worked a couple of his tours, so I will hold off on a more lengthy tirade. However, this line sums it…

I myself in my 50s now, and when I was 22, my boss who was 30 years older asked me to stay for a meeting. He brought me a coffee only for me to discover I had been drugged. I came to in nothing but my underwear, which he was in the process of removing. I guess I got a surge of adrenalin, because I bounced up like I…

Honestly just had this conversation with a friend of mine who is a gogo on the weekends in PS, and a VERY pretty brown boy. He was saying how he wanted to just find a daddy to get some extra coin and I kinda just looked at him and said “do you value your life”? Like, I did that shit in my late teens and it took a…

This guy is starting to feel like serial killer material. I wonder how many as yet undiscovered bodies he left buried back in Arizona?