I said that down in the greys before I saw yours. +1 million. I'll argue all day about this; I have the info to back it up.

Likewise. See also: ear gauges, bobby pins.

FWIW, I'm an animal behaviorist who's worked for the last few years for a cat circus (and I'm in vet med now), so AMA you fucking weirdos.

“The students expressed interest in Common because he composed the Oscar-winning song ‘Glory’ with our prior commencement speaker John Legend.”

I mean. In your example, I'd call that guy fucked up, and then I wouldn't call him. If I were into getting eaten out.

I don't disagree, per se, but— probably as was VICE's intention— it's ended up being a referendum on whether oral sex should be reciprocal. This woman's specific issues seem only to be relevant when arguing that the idea of a woman wanting oral sex but not wanting to perform it return is abhorrent.

Wait, can I answer that? I understand this is just one person's opinion, but yes. Yes, a man can end a relationship with a woman for the exact same circumstances.

And I think the main takeaway from kink relationships is THAT— "switching roles is not what most people do." Even in vanilla relationships, people like what they like and don't like what they don't. It's not prima facie "being a douchebag" to not reciprocate sexually.

get out of here, unicorn, your kind neither exists nor is wanted here. GO ON, GIT.

I am glad we cut the crap, but I think we're going to have to end this at "we disagree."

I think that's a separate argument, though (and I see a lot of people here trying to conflate that kind of situation with what that woman is saying. Not you, necessarily).

That IS a better example. But, using that, why is that person a douchebag? They get off from pissing on you. They do not get off from you pissing on them. If both people agree that that works, and everyone agrees that person A gets to piss on person B but B doesn't get to piss on A, then why does it matter that it…

The funniest thing is that at least a couple of the men I've known who don't really like oral sex are guys with huge penises. One told me oral sex was "an appetizer at best and not a good one like a bunch of mozzarella sticks but one of the one-bite ones." Makes sense to me.

I dunno...how is she being a douchebag if she says "I don't want to do this" but likes other sex acts?

I know women who don't especially enjoy being eaten out, and I know men who don't especially enjoy blowjobs.

It's the girlfriend voice that makes this hilarious.

I'm a notorious bailer (serious chronic fatigue). I feel very bad about it (I have last-minute bailed on some things NO ONE should ever bail on), but it's a thing. And the older I get the less "okay" it is with other people.

Me too. Sometimes, like a real asshole, I make a big production out of it. Stubbing it out and yelling "OH MY GOD YOU SAVED MY LIFE!"

I was 19. I was driving along on an empty industrially-zoned street (it was the "shortcut" I always used to get to my parents') and thought a police car needed to get by me, so I pulled over. Imagine my surprise when the cop stops behind me.

I think I would have an aneurysm if someone had hit me like that and then told me they were "the girl who tapped [my] car." I think my blood pressure went up just reading that.