I’m not even sure it a cultural chasm sometimes....cause I’m here and I don’t get it.

Ha, then you should be more than fine.

Oh gosh, the time someone gave me Jordan Almonds as a gift. I’m highly allergic... like I didn’t feel okay with the fact that I’d opened the wrapping and touched it....and I still smiled and said thank you while trying to not be obvious about dumping it somewhere as soon as possible.

3 showers? And they weren’t like for different groups at the very least? Like I could maybe understand a shower with work folks and a shower with family but noooo a lingerie, formal, and couples shower? That is a cash grab...dang.

Meh, I think they have their place. There are still plenty of women who don’t have things to “set up house” so to speak. Not everyone getting married has had their own place or lived with their partner. I wouldn’t call someone self-entitled simply for having the shower because usually the bride doesn’t throw the…

Yes. I mean I’m no expert but yes that’s more than enough for a wedding present. 75 dollars is a decent amount of money and to be fair unless they’re on the registry she won’t know how much they cost.

I do think that if anyone was going to be hypersensitive about this it’d be William and Harry. The way Diana died has to loom large in their concern for George.

Eh I get shower gifts....but I come from a culture where you live at home till you get married (except for college) so you probably need stuff.

No, the “friend” said it was on it’s way in his card, so asking after it just makes sense. That’s someone checking that the gift wasn’t stolen off the front porch type of situation.

It is really rude. People are not required to get anything. If they didn’t you just keep moving.

Yeah, it’s not a present or cash grab. People are happy for you and want to give something. That’s way different than having a bunch of pre-wedding events and thinking people are buying stuff for every single thing. Tradition and etiquette only come up with the possibility of two presents for a wedding situation…

Yes, the one rule that I tend to think Bride and Grooms need to remember is that a gift is NEVER REQUIRED. Do people tend to? Yes. Do people usually give two, one for the shower one for the wedding? Yes. BUT IT’S NOT REQUIRED!!!

Well to be fair you are never “required” to give a gift. Showers are gift giving events so people are expected to bring things to them.....but they do not automatically cancel out the wedding gift. I feel like this is an rule that needs updating though, if I buy something expensive for the shower I don’t have money to…

Right? You are not technically required to do both....although by some of the comments here about people (not the commenters but the people whose wedding’s they were in) being upset after someone gave a shower gift and threw a party that there was no “wedding” gift....some folks clearly don’t know that.

Noo! You got her a shower gift that is more than enough! You do not have to get someone more than one present for the wedding! Your friend was super wrong to demand anything, much less in such a rude way.

Indeed. How about some people are just not interested in having truffles or alcohol. Think about it as more for the folks who do like it/the effects.

Right. That stuff stops being awesome or easy by 25. And frankly most of it is us pretending we want to spend all night at the club...because that’s what you do in your 20s.

This this this. I just finished a professional certificate program (to be more marketable....eye roll) and am looking for work. If I hear one more person say well if you’d do an internship we might hire you in six months. Um no no no. I am too old to work for free.

Me too.

This reminds me of a show I saw once (ER or some medical show) where this dude ended up in the hospital after his bachelor party. He wasn’t super hurt but had to say for a bit, his groomsmen were hanging around plotting how to shave his massive beard in his sleep. Apparently dude was obsessive about his beard. Once…