I went to Puerto Vallarta earlier this year--my first ever “vacation” as an adult. It was great, though I’d probably book a third excursion if I went again. Turns out I’m not a chill-by-the-pool kind of person. The only thing I didn’t like was how aggressive the timeshare people went after me as a single woman (and…

Holy shit, this is really something.

So nowhere on the internet should swear in case a kid is googling unsupervised? They’re liable to find far worse than reading the word “fuck.”

It’s hilarious/infuriating that you think this is what happens in rape cases.

Yes! When I saw it in theatre, the whole place cheered afterward (and I cried like five times!).

Look, this place sure ain’t perfect. But after venturing into the comments section of the Lifehacker piece on non-binary folks, I feel like I’ve been taking for granted how (mostly) not awful the comments section is here. That was a huge and profound bummer full of a bunch of straight cis dudes (I mean, I don’t know…

Because they want to be seen and accepted for who they are. Because being not-straight and/or not-cis gender profoundly impacts the way the world treats you and the way you move through the world. Because you want your friends and family to know who you are.

Eulogy, though calling it a rom-com seems wrong. There is both romance and dark comedy in it, though!

Let me guess, you’ve never had to announce that you are straight and cisgender and therefore everyone who has to announce that they are not one or the other (or both) is just crying out for attention?

Why do you need to assume Frank’s biological sex, though?

How does it harm you to believe people who are different from you? Cause that’s really what “identity politics” means--I don’t want to listen to people who are different from me and whose needs aren’t currently being met, so I’m going to derisively call it “identity politics” because everyone who doesn’t look like me…

But how a person identifies is important to them. And respecting that is part of being a cool person.

Plus, the consequence of a trans person being misgendered (emotional harm too often followed by physical harm) is much worse than the consequence of misgendering (being politely corrected if they think you won’t physically harm them).

This does not make sense.

Not just the greys. Jesus this is gross.

That’s nice and all, but begin a tomboy is not the same as being trans or non-binary. 

And yes, sexuality is a choice. I explored it by trying gayness for a while, found it wasn’t for me, and realized I was straight.

Wow, that article was appallingly mean-spirited and gross. Not to speculate about Lovato, but the list of “problems she’s claimed” are frequent responses to trauma and frequently co-exist. Being so dismissive is really fucking gross. Yuck.

I think the biggest problem with the AA model is that it a) isn’t treatment in any real sense and b) has an astonishingly low “success” rate. The framing of relapse as failure (rather than a hallmark of addiction) is just part and parcel of that all.

I’m pretty sure the picture is the Pretenders, while the song is the Proclaimers...how strange.