No, but see, it’s not “to each their own” when there is such strong cultural pressure that your brain is seemingly incapable of seeing any other choice than the woman taking the man’s name. How do I know this? Because you seem to think marriage without sharing a name is useless and that women wanting to keep their…

Oooh man. That sounds awful.

Whaaatttttt.

This one is my favourite and I’d say I google it and then laugh and laugh and laugh about twice a month:

Pasties, though. I loved those so much when I lived there.

Not quite. There weren’t stones but there was “sludge” and some kind of structural issue that caused the same kind of pain. It was incredible how painful it was—I’ve been told by someone who’s experienced both that it’s worse than childbirth by a lot.

I think that once weed is legal you’ll see a bigger shift toward edibles. I don’t have any data to back this up, but looking at my own and other folks I know, when you’re buying illicit cannabis your choices are basically weed that you smoke or bake with (and mostly I was too lazy to bake/didn’t like the intensity of…

Yeah, I worked as a medical office assistant as an 18 or 19 year old and was occasionally a chaperone. Thankfully nothing ever happened, but I don’t know that I would have been equipped to have said anything to or about a man old enough to be my father who could cut off my livelihood. At 31, hell yeah I’d do it, but…

I had a health meltdown a few years ago that ended up being a diseased gallbladder and not one but two intestinal parasites. The two male doctors I saw were CONVINCED it was STI-related (do you know of an STI that causes pain in the upper right abdomen after eating and diarrhea? No? Me neither) and did their very best…

That’s a...strong opinion.

OMG in official reports!

Yeah, my bad!

What is my end game? My end game is changing the expectation that women will literally give up their professional and personal identity to “avoid friction” for a “beautiful tradition” that is not actually all that beautiful for those who suffer the consequences of it.

But you are willing to end a loving, healthy relationship over something that isn’t intellectually defensible. Feelings aren’t fixed. This is likely something you could work on (say with a therapist), and come to understand the roots of the desire and possible compromises. Obviously that’s your choice to do, or not,…

See, I think that the person who gestates and births them should get to choose the last name because they are the literal reason those humans exist. And if mothers can easily create loving, tight, familial bonds without sharing a last name, I am confident that men can too.

Oh sure, all those nuclear families on the SAVANNAH.

Bro. No.

I’m a little put off by the Greenwald piece, but Laura Jeanne continues to impress me as a producer.

Hmm. Good point. I think in the case of a surrogate they pick up a book, scan it, and the first name they come across becomes the baby’s last name.

I think few if any people would say that a mental health diagnosis represents a “catch-all excuse” for harming people, but we can’t ignore the structural factors that make it difficult-to-impossible for many people to access mental health care, and the high rates of medication non-adherence that are present in all…