The day I found out that not only was my rapist getting married, but that multiple friends of mine were attending the wedding, I vividly and graphically imagined his death over and over and it was, in some way, healing.

Yes. In my ill-conceived conversation about this topic with my brother he instantly went to “witch-hunt” and “when can we allow them back into society?” and I fucking lost it.

That is a great analogy.

Absolutely! I also often think of it in regards to clergy abusing children—they’re taught by their abusers—that forgiveness is the ultimate virtue.

YES!

YESSS. Let’s abolish the concept of forgiveness in favour of atonement and restitution. Imagine how much better the world would be.

As for me, I’ve started asking, “How come you want these victims to ‘get over it,’ yet if anyone suggested the same about 9/11, you’d blow a gasket?” I’ve never gotten a response.

YES. It is so tiresome and harmful. Plenty of homophobes are just shitty people who hate people who aren’t like them and are rigidly attached to patriarchal bullshit.

I’ve never heard Playboy referred to as either classy or artistic...

Are you okay?

I agree. Doritos are perfect on their own.

Thanks for this! This is fascinating.

Thank you. Unfortunately, anti-violence work is severely undervalued and, thus, underpaid. I’ve largely left the field due to burnout, which is only worsened by living just above poverty.

Weighted blankets use polyfill. As a sewist and someone who has a weighted blanket (that I bought), I wouldn’t try DIY-ing it. They’re a lot of work and this standard method (a billion small pockets, 15 pounds of polyfill evenly distributed) has presumably been found for a reason.

Weighted blankets use polyfill. As a sewist and someone who has a weighted blanket (that I bought), I wouldn’t try…

You have to make a blanket with about 80 little pockets, fill each pocket, sew it closed, go on to the next one. The labour involved is high. And the polyfill is not cheap. I’m a sewist and looked at making one myself, and the labour plus supplies would have made it far more expensive than this.

You have to make a blanket with about 80 little pockets, fill each pocket, sew it closed, go on to the next one. The…

These blankets weigh 15 pounds, with the weight evenly distributed. A tied fleece blanket with layering in the middle is not going to do the same thing.

These blankets weigh 15 pounds, with the weight evenly distributed. A tied fleece blanket with layering in the…

Yes, absolutely. They definitely did.

Oh man! I’m sorry. That’s terrible. Is that the MTHFR gene (in my head it’s always “motherfucker” gene...)?

To be fair, she might just be taking one out of the president’s playbook...

It always makes me laugh when they do this “gasp! We would never! Here are the buzzwords we think will get us out of this.” reaction. Fuck off, bros. We all know what mainstream frats* are like, and they’re garbage.