Or maybe the husband that she went to pick up could have taken the baby home/sat with it in the car (assuming she wasn’t lying about why she was there). Responsibilities for everyone!

As a fat girl myself I hear you - I’ve been there, done that. But in my case it wasn’t just the guys; it was other girls. I remember at the age of 11 sitting in class with my two main (female) bullies right behind me, insulting me in pretty gross and graphic sexual language, just loud enough for only me to hear. I…

I’m really uncomfortable with the idea (expressed in that article and even on here) that “we” have all acted like her at times/ as teens. Because that’s just not true and it’s indicative of the way we dismiss horrible cruelty from women (and especially teenage girls) to others as ‘not harmful’. It is harmful! Ask any…

Oh god yes - this. I was wearing a C cup at the age of 11, and a DD before I was 14. I was also told I looked “old for my age” and people (usually men) always thought I was much older than I was. I used to think this was just because of my face (though my huge boobs didn’t help) but now I’m 40 and I look at my 14 year…

Exactly. And it’s not like toxic masculinity and helpless virgins aren’t stock tropes in a hell of a lot of other genres.

I think it’s a testament to how much is expected of women that even with a nanny and a cleaner you are still judged, and still do most of the other labour (especially that ‘unseen’ stuff).

LOL Thank you! I’m no saint though - just tired :)

It does, but much less so. If you have a lawn that needs to be mowed every 2 weeks or so. If you have plants/a garden, maybe every 2 weeks for weeding etc. Though it does take a longer time. But on the other hand every day inside you have: dishes, laundry, feeding people, vaccuming, making beds, putting away crap,…

OMFG *this*. I tell my partner all the time that people are looking at *me* with judgement if something is wrong with the house or the kids, despite the fact we both work full time outside the home. He doesn’t believe me and it drives me batshit crazy. He says “ah, we’re a busy family, they should expect mess” but he…

A stand or a muzzle! Bloody hell! Poor sheep (this is *not* how you shear).

Compared to countries like mine, your (USA) maternal death rates *are* shocking. And we’re not a large or rich nation. Pregnancy only lasts nine months, but the physical impact of it can last far longer. I hear that you don’t believe forcing women to carry and birth children is akin to slavery but don’t minimise the…

Let’s not start down the “it’s only 9 months of physical labour” line. Pregnancy carries with it risks of long term injury and death (especially in the USA). Childbirth even more so. Why the desire to play it down? 

Yes, I’m the same. I’m sick of media full of men. My kids get annoyed (all girls) because I keep pointing out that all they’re seeing in children’s media is, again, men’s and boy’s stories. The insidious part though is how few people notice this male saturation. 

This is a great idea. In my country, the vaccines (which are free BTW) that are given to older children (tetanus/diphtheria/pertussis and HPV) are offered at school. As a parent all I had to do was sign the official form. You can use your doctor if you’d rather, or opt out for another reason, but most of us get the…

Exhibit 1; my brother in law. Nicest guy you could ever hope to meet, but really unfortunate face. My sister snapped him up the moment she met him!

Sorry, but as an ugly woman, I strongly disagree. Women have *huge* pressure put on us, by both men and other women, to be perfect (looking) 100% of the time. The base for women is makeup, hair with products and styling, hobbling shoes (high heels) and more. And as for being a dick, try being a woman with opinions and…

I discussed this with my partner the other day (he’s male, I’m female). We came to the conclusion that the only emotions a man was ‘allowed’ to feel were anger and lust. Everything else was derided. And this is a man in his late 40's, so if anything I think it’s gotten worse. 

You forgot every Seth Rogen movie ever made... :)

Exactly!! Unattractive men can get dates just by being personable. Unattractive females do not.

Yes, and as the female equivalent of your coworker (unattractive) let me tell you, it does *not* go the other way. These guys are already ‘ahead’ in life simply by being male. All they have to do is be clean and somewhat personable and they’ll have women to choose from. But they’re too self centered to see it.