It's not the giving of cash/gift cards/certificates that's tacky, it's asking for it. All gifts are optional. 100%. Otherwise, it'd be called a "financial subpoena" and your gift would be the payment plan ;)
Always 100% tacky to ask for cash. Sorry. A request for cash (for whatever purpose) is the fastest way to ensure I DON'T give you cash.
As someone else on this thread very succintly said: it's not tacky to give, it's tacky to ask.
Here's a neat trick to counterbalance the outrageous costs of a wedding and reception: Stop fucking spending thousands of dollars on a few hours of "this is my special day, look how pretty I am." If you cannot afford a wedding and a honeymoon, maybe you should stop throwing money away like it isn't the difference…
I feel like it shouldn't turn me off, but asking for honeymoon donations does irk me for some reason. I think because there's something icky about being asked to donate to a couple's dream vacation when I can't even afford one myself. What I can afford, however, is a wedding gift that shows them I care. I have no…
It's not tacky to give, it's tacky to ask.
No on on the honeymoon fund. Gifts are always optional at weddings, sorry, but they are. And asking your guests to fund your honeymoon seems a bit tacky to me. Don't take a honeymoon if you can't afford it. Same with people who ask for cash gifts towards a house or something. It's not up to your guests to pay for that…
You are fucking kidding, right? We live in a world where men, white men in particular, enjoy pretty much every advantage over every group – including women. This is not a “men's issue”. This is a misogynist MRA type with an outrageous sense of entitlement blaming women for his own failings and murdering them in some…
And the calling women 'females' is another MRA tactic.
A man goes on a misogynist rage fueled shooting spree and your takeaway is that men are the victims here? Fuck you.
This has MRA bullshit all over it from the start with all his "nice guy" stuff - this is firmly in their wheelhouse, the exemplar of their attitudes. Plus he's exactly the sort of guy that the MRA types will point to afterwards, saying, "See what women drive us to?!"
"I don't know why you girls aren't attracted to me. But I will punish you all for it."
You know what? Fuck this piece of shit. Fuck his whining, fuck his thinking he's entitled to women, fuck his worldview.
I'm confused about what part of this is disappointing you. Was it that they mentioned who this piece of scum's father is? That doesn't make him a celebrity and no one here is impressed by what he did or thinks he should be revered, so I'm not sure where your outrage is coming from.
You can fuck right off. Feeling grief for the victims and shock/disgust that such a thing could happen in one's own community are not mutually exclusive. People experience and express grief in all kinds of ways, and berating someone for not expressing it in the way you think they should makes you kind of a dick.
I'm sorry, did I say no one has it worse than me? I'm gonna try really hard not to berate you for being a shithead in the wake of this horrible tragedy, but let me break this down for you. Seven people are dead and those who are still alive in the community have to cope with that somehow. All of us. Not just me. I'm…
Shaddup.
you're a real fuck of a human, you know that right?
Oh, stop. You're being needlessly mean. Grieving isn't a competition. It IS hard to see the reminders of senseless violence every day, especially for those of us with tender hearts.