I can see that. My dad goes by a nickname, and my grandma(and grandpa when he was alive) is the only one who calls him his “proper name”, so I’m like no one’s gonna mess with my grandma ffor doing that lOl... But I can see what you mean... And I’m sorry that it sounds like they're not in the best terms with you. Good…

So.. I can see how to someone who doesn’t know us it might seem like this is a huge horrible thing, and that is not the picture I was trying to paint.. I don’t want to treat my BF as a man child, he’s really not.. Is just that I may not always be at my best emotionally, and I feel like it would be better if there were…

Is cool. I just figured I’d let you know cos it threw me off for a sec

I hate the “de” too. Also, it used to be that you were “Maria viuda de Lopez”... Like uggh! Can you imagine that as a legal name? Let alone a professional one? How fucking depressing! But yeah, most people only use it socially...

That’s weird... Spaniards don’t change their last name... I think they legally did away with it...

That's kind of shitty... Is like defaulting the honor of your doctorate to your husband... You worked for that shut

TBF, I kind of understand parents using your “proper” name, but I also get everything else you said. ❤️️

How about using his name socially, but keeping yours legally?

I agree, but Americans mock ltinos for having “too many names”.. Like, literally just one more than muricans...

lOl. I think you meant “ColOmbian”

That's how people do it in Spain, mom of the groom or both parents walk the groom too... But the walking and giving away the bride is the big deal

I’ll actually give him a couple cookie points that at least he seems truthful with the whole “unit” thing rather than using that as an excuse for making you change yours

Uggh!! I told my SO that if we get married, he’s the only one allowed to call me Mrs. His name. I’m not changing my name, but because we live together, people already send us mail where they default to his name. TBF, is mostly been for like his friends’ engagement/wedding parties, and their families know him, while…

OMG! At first, I interpreted this to mean you were siding with her in-laws, like “if you marry my family and don’t want my name, I’d pick random names”.. lOl...

I feel like of I took my SO’s name, MY family would be like “so what’s wrong with our name?”

Honestly.. Given the fact that now everything is typed in a computer, you’d think that it would be easier to just accept “weird” characters in forms

Military types are ... so... Ahem... Traditionalists... Just out of curiosity, why does he have to fill out paperwork? Insurance?

But actually... A lot of other countries have 2 surnames, so it would actually be weirder to have just one. In fact, b4 coming to Murica, I would have assumed that 2 people with the same surname were siblings rather than spouses

When your kid grows up, they can choose which name to keep from each parent for their own kids. That's like 20 years from now...

So, because I’m hispanic, I have 2 surnames. People often confuse my first surname(my dad’s of course) as a middle name, and call me by my mom’s name. Either that, or they hyphenate it. It’s like people can’t deal with it. The only time I’ve ever caved to using my SO’s name was at the gym: we wouldn’t get a couple’s…