The line between physical and psychiatric pain is so blurry. For example I’m a stress puker. Which side of the line is my nausea on? Isn’t it both?
As someone who struggles with depression I can relate to this. It’s another 1st world imaginary disease with no physical evidence. I waver all the time on whether it is real. The pain seems real, but maybe it’s not?
You’re too sweet :) My parents are both doing pretty well even on days they’re not, and we do laugh a lot, so don’t worry about me. I think your situation sounds more difficult because of the stage of dementia you’re dealing with. It must be so emotionally draining. I’ve been a caregiver for family members who have…
I ordered a wool sweater from them as a teenager for my mom as a gift in the 90’s with my babysitting money. It was probably more than $50 but less than $100. She still wears it all the time, and it’s a really excellent quality piece of clothing that will probably last another 20 years before looking dingy. But then I…
Only if it comes with a psych eval for mommy or daddy.
Pro tip: if you believe that your small child is possessed by demons, take them to the hospital. They’re pretty good at determining the existence and whereabouts of demons at the ER.
I can easily imagine both scenarios, and I don’t think there’s a hard line between them. I just read these details as placing this closer to the latter end of the spectrum.
You rock: she’s so lucky to have you. I’m taking care of my parents now, and my mom is bipolar and now starting to lose her memory as well. My dad has stage 4 cancer and I appreciate every minute of the time I’m spending with him, but with my mom, it scares the everloving shit out of me to think about what is going to…
I don’t think people are thinking about how catastrophic the illness gets at the end. It must be exhausting as a family member on many levels; my deepest sympathies.
I was really going to take an agnostic stance on this before I read the part about him seeming to agree with the consensus of her other family members and her caretakers. Based on some of the descriptions of her condition it seems quite likely that her daughters’ concerns about him having sex with her were legitimate,…
Why doesn’t he get to disagree with their consensus?
Hopefully their team of caretakers and their families. That’s what almost happened here.
Maybe he did think he knew better. But that’s not really a legal excuse to do something that the team of caretakers and the woman’s daughters have specifically asked you not to do, that you’ve agreed to. What if they were right? If he disagreed with them, why didn’t he say so in the meeting rather than agree with them…
That part is what really gets me. People are so vulnerable in that state and even with family and caretakers seemingly on the same page, this kind of shit can happen.
Her daughters and the people who took care of her did not think she could consent anymore and told him so. He doesn’t get to override their consensus just because he wants to, or because the staff are underpaid.
Well in the case of residents who cannot consent to sex that’s exactly what they should be enforcing. No one is entitled to sex with a person who can’t consent, even if they are married to that person.
So did I until this part:
