idk I think that part's pretty important

I think I met you at the GDC Women's SIG a couple of years ago and remember hearing about your studies. I am really sorry your work is getting pulled into this mess. It's so baffling to me- I'm a female AAA game dev and have been thankfully insulated from this junk, the guys I know and work with that have in some…

Not to disagree with your overall sentiment or anything, but you're wanting to give him a hug, not her – E.R. is a (trans) man.

I'm of the mind that people who write have great imaginations and as a result some are really good liars and are good at creating a fiction about themselves that is convincing to others. I don't want to get into it, but I'm pretty sure my ex could qualify as a sociopath or something. And yeah it's staggering how many…

When I read stories like this my heart breaks for the young women who become trapped in relationships like this. Our society treats women like they are objects who do not have agency over their own bodies. I'm in a place in my life where I will probably be having children soon. Do any parents have advice on raising…

I honestly don't think this is anything but awesome. I want to be friends with him so I can come over and play with his toys. (I tried to think up a way to say that that wouldn't sound dirty, but it was impossible so whatever.)

I suffered extreme post partum depression and even as that fog has cleared a year past child birth I wonder if I didn't make a mistake. Not that my child is a mistake but that I was mistaken in thinking I was cut out to be a mother. I'm grateful to these women for publicly talking about this. If they didn't I wouldn't…

I get this, although this is probably one of those narratives that's more about understanding a different perspective on the norm rather than gaining sympathy. But there's another side to it too. My own experience is that people can express those things (openly or passive aggressively) and still be capable of good…

The problem is, by saying you only feel sympathy for their children and not for these women stuck doing something they regretted, you're ensuring that women will continue to feel ashamed for having these feelings and they won't speak about this frankly to people close to them or anyone else, and will keep these…

I explained in the article what spurred it. Did you miss that or not believe it? There were allegations last week that Sarkeesian lied about informing the police about harassment. A critic of hers had a person from the SFPD on audio saying they hadn't heard from Sarkeesian. That was certainly a story I felt we should…

For nearly 25 years, my dad was the most widely-read syndicated medical columnist in America. He received over 2,000 letters every week from men, women, and teenagers from across the country and around the world asking for advice.

To paraphrase: "A wo/man's true character can be seen in how s/he treats people who can do neither great good nor great harm in said person's life."

One of the many life rules my parents taught me: "Someone who is nice to you but rude to the waitstaff is not a nice person."

When I finally broke up with a friend who was awful to people in the service industry (for reasons that included, but were not limited to, that behavior), it was such a relief! I never had to dread going out to a restaurant with her again.

"He called me a liberal" —as if it were an insult.

Lord. Making Grandpa yell and Grandma cry at Thanksgiving. No pie for her. Ever.

I've had to cut them out of my life except for the most distant and perfunctory contact. I have an uncle who was very loved by me as a child. I called all men that weren't my dad 'Bobby' because of my Uncle Bob. He was so sweet to me and so thoughtful and just the most comforting, gentle, loving bear of a man with…

Just do what I do with my mother: start screaming "HEY YOU KNOW WHAT WE HAVEN'T TALKED ABOUT YET? THE WEATHER! HOW 'BOUT THAT WEATHER?!?!"

I had a similar problem. It sort of resolved itself once I married a man that's half Jewish. Since said family member thinks all Jews are going to hell, well, why hang out too much in this life if we won't be together in the next, you know? (This is what I believe her thinking is.) Also, it got harder and harder for…

My advice to my students (college) - when a member of the family makes a racist comment at a family gathering, loudly say, "I've got to take a shit" and leave the room. Makes it into a politeness as opposed to a political issue. They stop saying racist things and you'll stop announcing you have to take a shit when…