In the ex’s mind, it’s all about him. That’s why he can justify to himself being just as upset paying for his own wedding as he is that you’ve moved on. Some people are only happy when they’re the victims.

Yep. I DGAF about “wedding” stuff. Don’t care what it looks like. Would rather not plan it.

You were supposed to cloister yourself and pine for him forever, duh.

He did... He felt that “it moved to fast and he needed a break from me” we dated for 5 months before I was forced to get in a relationship with him. He found out he wasn’t the only guy I was dating. We were to together for only 1 month afterwards... I was going to end it the day he did.

In addition to complaints, any time anyone has a question, its all MEEEEEEEE.

FB: How insecure GFs keep tabs on the women they feel threatened by.

Who criticizes a wedding to the actual bride? What kind of people do you hang out with???

Well no, because you’re not expecting for everyone who has a grandparent to bring their grandparent to a wedding. You have to expect that for kids. And yes, I see tons of weddings with kids, and obviously kids participate in weddings, but that couple PLANNED for that. Other couples do not, purposefully. That’s why…

yeah we made it only my nieces and yet we were then forced to accept other children (Only a few but still) because they ASSUMED their kids would be invited and its rude to tell them otherwise according to my inlaws. still mad they are in our pictures.

Oh sure— ANYTHING that people like or dislike about a wedding is always attributed to the bride. It’s assumed that all the groom did was put on a tux and show up. Ever wonder why there’s no Groomzilla equivalent to Bridezilla? Yeah.

Weddings are not really fun for kids. Honestly, when I see kids at weddings, I imagine their internal dialogue is pretty much “let’s get this shit over with and on to the cake.”

My mother can’t make up her mind about which of us she thinks makes all the decisions. Because to her someone has to be supreme overlord. There can be no compromise.

Ugh this is why I am so glad we’re having a small wedding AND almost none of my friends have kids yet. We didn’t even have to specify no children. But I really don’t understand why people get so offended that their offspring are not included in a fancy evening party!

This times a million. I keep trying to explain to my fiance—who is actually very cool and helpful with wedding stuff—that in the end everything will be blamed on me if anything goes wrong. I love that he has so many ideas, but I’m like Great now where does that fit in with anything else, who is paying for it, and who…

Ugh awful. I keep explaining this to my fiance and he doesn’t get it. He also isn’t helping make any decisions despite my encouragement, but if he does step up and make some, I know I’m going to get ripped to shreds and he’ll keep walking on sunshine...

Yeah, I’m thinking what a poster below said. I’m assuming an internal narrative of, “look at me! I’M STILL HERE, and his friends and family are still mine! And fuck you, bride!”

That’s how I interpret “let’s be friends” as well. Some people find with time that they can move beyond being cordial, but jumping straight into being buds typically means someone is concealing lingering feelings (to me, at least).

She probably thought she would be hurting the bride’s feelings and being really subtle about it to boot.

That’s what the person who is over the relationship means (ie. I won’t spit on you when you walk by) but the person with unresolved feelings hears “there’s still a chance for us to be together.”

“178 different ways of crazy” ... good movie/book title...