For every woman who was creeped out by Weinstein, another 5 slept with him.

First, a lot of women love that type of attention.<— There’s your problem. You are laboring under a bullshit belief. Just because we giggle and squirm does not mean we love that type of attention. That’s just a story you are telling yourself that allows you to harass women with your touches.

No, this isn’t a grey area. When I met the man I’m now married to he was instantly attracted to me so he paid attention to me, smiled at me and basically made me feel as though everyone in the room had disapperared for him before finding an excuse to get my contact information and set up a date.What he didn’t do is…

Don’t tell us what kind of attention women like.

For every woman who slept with Harvey Weinstein, there were five who were horrified, traumatized, and driven out of their profession. For every one woman who likes this, there are five who hate it. Isn’t it fun when you can just make up statistics that favor your point of view? Or, in other words, isn’t it fun when…

I want to be clear that the guys who did this stuff was wrong, but men are left in a Catch-22. I’m sure I will be eviscerated, but here goes the reasoning.

He was NOT raising good points. As a gay man I find it difficult to tell if other men are interested in me or even if they are gay. When I am introduced to men in a work setting, should I just grad their body parts and see how they react? No? Why not?

As a guy that has had quite a bit of experience “pursuing women”, I can help you out and sum up the answer to any questions one might have.

Plenty of guys know how to be respectful to women. You’re not all out there like “oh my god this is so confusing, do I grab her tit or treat her like a fellow human and talk about mutual interests?!?!”

VERY. FEW. OF. US. LIKE. THAT. ATTENTION.

This is going to sound crazy, but it is possible to indicate interest in a woman without touching her or reducing her to her body parts. It’s called using your words to say things like “Hello” or “How are you”.

Well start with not touching a woman when she’s doing her job.

I believe you, but what specifically do I need to do?

When you want a reservation, do you grab a waiter’s dick? When you want a job, do you caress your prospective boss’s cheek? When you want a date, say to a woman, “Would you like to go out some time? I’d love to get to know you better.” and if she says no walk the fuck away and deal with your feelings yourself. DON’T…

JFC. I am channeling my inner Uma Thurman right now, but I am going to go ahead and presume you are not the goddamn problem you sound like in this post and give you one piece of advice that I hope you will take. I am going to keep it simple so as not to be “perplexing”:

And who cares if some women like it anyway?

What I read in your comments is that sense of entitlement/ privilege that cis hetero men feel they have. That makes me upset but I’m trying not to flame you.

Besides, didn’t Damon already write this advice, like two weeks ago?

A women out in a social setting probably has different expectations for her interactions with men so flirting may not be unwelcome.

This woman was at work. A women out in a social setting probably has different expectations for her interactions with men so flirting may not be unwelcome.