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I've always wanted to try the Diva Cup, but I'm (for lack of a better word) intimidated. Despite reading multiple articles, I still am a bit confused on how they work. Also, the idea of something suctioning to my cervix sounds painful... Can you elaborate on your Diva Cup experiences?

I completely and utterly understand what you're saying. When I see my fiance cooking and cleaning and picking up after me, etc., I'm overwhelmed with appreciation. The thing that most turns me on is when we have a really deep, intellectual conversation about me and he expresses his views, which are part of the reason

Meh. My fiance does all the cooking and cleaning. I think a well cooked meal is more of a turn on than a clean house. With one, he smells like warm bread and herbs. The other, like bleach and lysol. Blechhh.

Meh. My fiance does all the cooking and cleaning. I think a well cooked meal is more of a turn on than a clean house. With one, he smells like warm bread and herbs. The other, like bleach and lysol. Blechhh.

From my perspective, I've usually asked out of genuine interest. I studied linguistics for several years and speak a few languages, so when I hear an accent I can place, I usually ask - if only to ask if I could speak with them in their native language. I really have tried to approach it sensitively; I hope I haven't

For me, it's not about being rude. I honestly didn't think I was approaching it insensitively, but I studied linguistics for several years and speak a few languages. When I hear someone speak with an accent I can place, I usually ask them - if only to ask if I can speak with them in their native language. I hope

Also, repeating "I sing the body electric" ad nauseum does not make me think you actually read Walt Whitman.

I see no conflict between my nurturing side, which exists and nurtures the fuck out of my cats, and my workin' side, which works, obviously. In that distant future when I have children, I'll still work. It's not a conflict, I just think the best way to nurture the chillins is to be able to...you know, afford food and

I really empathize with what you're saying. My fiance has AS, and I decided to take a rigorous, in-depth test online. I scored about a 75%...we joke I am 3/4 aspie. It'd be nice to have a yes or a no rather than somewhere in between, but I think human psychology isn't so black and white, y'know?

Aspergers isn't the same for everyone. It's not just social awkwardness or an introverted lifestyle. I'm very introverted, but not an aspie. My fiance is an Aspie. Most people would say they can't tell because he's gotten very good at coping. They don't see the breakdowns he gets from "autism fatigue." Basically, you

Oh man, that sounds awful...it also sounds exactly like my parents' response when my fiance and I called them. "Well, this is ...interesting" was my dad's response, I believe. yuck!

I think it's really hard to judge maturity based on age. I've met some people who are making horrible mistakes, usually (and I mean this nonjudgementally) conservative and Christian, who get married uber young and start pumping out babies. Then, you can meet people who just know what they want, find it, and want to

Yes....and no. It is very annoying to have people talk over every detail of their wedding. That said, politeness matters a lot. I do agree with you that it's like nails on a chalkboard. I'm engaged, actually, and I don't talk about it. I kind of wish someone would ask because with all of the parental BS I've had to

My fiance asked me for the first time 2 months in and I thought he had gone insane. I told him he was being ridiculous and ignored him. He asked me for real about a year later. I'm sure people have probably judged us, but it just fit in a way that no other relationship has. It's easy, we communicate really well, have

Thank you! The day I got engaged, a "friend" posted a rant on Facebook about people getting married young/how gross engagement posts are. Six months later? Guess whose Facebook was covered in OMG GUYS I'M ENGAGED LOLZZZ? Yeah...can we just be happy? Yay for love!

THIS! Before demanding a diamond ring or one that is 1/3 of your intended's income, please read about the history of the De Beers company, the idea of artificial value, and read up on the violence in Africa because of the diamond trade.

Same! I actually really hate the idea of someone spending thousands and thousands of dollars on a stupid ring anyway. When we started to have the Talk, I flat out told my then-bf that if he spent more than a couple hundred on it or bought me a diamond, I'd still marry him, but I'd ask him to return the ring. Instead,

They do, indeed. I think, from an external side of things, a diagnosis can possibly open doors for you to get the right therapy or treatment as well. Although medication was not the right option for my partner, it may help some people. That, and therapy can help alleviate some of the social anxiety!

Exactly this. My partner didn't magically become more or less autistic the day they decided to name it something different. He prefers referring to himself as having AS as a subset of autism as it tends to be more accurate. The clinical descriptions of AS match him better than those of various points on the spectrum.

Currently, AS has been taken out of the DMSV and assimilated as part of the autism spectrum. Honestly, it's just a moot point. I think Doug's description was fine, especially given the ongoing arguments in the AS and autism community about naming. It's just a convention, not a reason to go eviscerating a writer. My