Umm, my entire comment was about how I disagree with her, so why would you say that I’m saying she is right? And I’m well aware that those guys wore those badges, where do you think I got the info from? I’ve also seen tens of thousands of stickers, clothing, etc. saying things like, “I have PMS, therefore I can…
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Re: your statement “to put those rapists’ responsibility onto yourself and carry around the blame for your own rape must be absolutely unbearable.”
Yuppie dudes are just as capable and likely to rape a woman as bikers are. They may be in a different class of people, but their class clearly doesn’t stop them from being just as vile of rapists as any others.
I agree. I feel bad for her, too. She’s clearly spent the last 40 years blaming herself for something that is in no way her fault. However, you’re 100% right that her way of thinking is absolutely dangerous. Just like society should never create a template for victim behavior; survivors of sexual assault shouldn’t do…
He was great but he wasn’t the first therapist I tried. I’d been to two others and was at least 5 years post rape when I went to him. He specialized in traumatic events and PTSD so he was exactly what I needed.
Sigh. EXACTLY. I’m going to stick my head in the sand here a bit and blame the effing Boomers for NOT GETTING how wrong they are. Ohhhh Aunt Chrissy. You’ve just disappointed the shit out of me. I never really dug Joni Mitchell, and the Runaways I rationalized as too drunk to know what was up(no) but CHRISSY FUCKIN’…
We all need to feel in control of our own lives and destinies. That, coupled with the heavy undercurrent of victim-blaming we’ve all been socialized into, makes that reaction next to impossible to fight. :(
I feel really bad for her. To put those rapists’ responsibility onto yourself and carry around the blame for your own rape must be absolutely unbearable. At the same time, I think she is a dangerous person, spreading those types of falsehoods, because it says to other women who’ve been victims of rape that it was their…
It makes me sad how often a fwiw is followed by “I was raped”. It highlights how prevalent rape is, and that it can be stated so matter of factly... I am sorry. I’m glad you have a good therapist.
That is very compassionate, thank you. I sort of ignored the whole fact that she is a victim when I blacked out and saw red at what she was saying.
I’m glad you found a good therapist. I know that isn’t easy.
Oh man. I’m a little bit older than Chrissie and I grew up with that same bullshit, victim-blaming message drilled into my head — and boy was it drilled into us. I got over it. Fwiw, I was also raped (back in the 80s) and I tried really hard to blame myself, but my therapist wouldn’t let me get by with that.
“Oh, come on! That’s just silly. If I’m walking around and I’m very modestly dressed and I’m keeping to myself and someone attacks me, then I’d say that’s his fault. But if I’m being very lairy and putting it about and being provocative, then you are enticing someone who’s already unhinged — don’t do that. Come on!…
Honestly, this attitude is very common from people who have been assaulted. When I responded to hospital calls, they would spend a lot of time thinking and critiquing their own actions. It’s horrible to think, but it’s sometimes easier to blame yourself than to confront the reality that a gang of men decided to…
It’s rather disheartening how many of the old school female musicians expouse such repugnant views. Between the Runaways rape denial and Joni Mitchell with her weird racist stuff and now Chrissie Hynde...
I hope no one is expecting one of them to donate a kidney. Even the shoe thing is more than that they had to do.
I mean, I don’t think they’re the ones making that comparison. The man in need of a kidney is the one who decided he’d part with his sneakers to get said kidney. So K&K to replace those shoes. I realize the expected “awesome thing” for them to do would be to donate one of their kidneys, but like... Let's be real. If…
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