I think the author is very insightful and intelligent but those qualities are all filtered through an insufferable pretty rich white woman lens.

So I just bought ‘Eat Pray Love’, after two unrelated people at different points of the same day recommend it. (I thought it must be some kind of cosmic message or something *shrug*)

Yay I’m so glad Sunday Night Social is happening, thank you JE!

Precisely! He got married recently, which I found out because we still have a few mutual friends who were posting about his wedding on Facebook. I had to leave work because I was having a panic attack. He’s getting married, surrounded by not just mutual friends but friends I gave up because I didn’t trust they’d be on…

Well, feeling entitled to anything/anyone you want probably makes you pretty happy. It’s easy to be happy-go-lucky if you’ve never had to admit any wrongdoing or suffer any consequences for your actions. I’d be happy-go-lucky too if I thought I was untouchable and didn’t give a fuck about hurting others.

I think you’re totally right—because most rapists aren’t dudes in an alley with a gun, they’re our friends and dates and colleagues who think of themselves as “good guys” and good guys don’t rape.

I woke up/came to in the middle of a man trying to get my panties off. I said ‘no’ and he didn’t stop, he tried sweet talking me. I said ‘please dont’ and he tried guilting me. I said ‘you’re raping me’ and he stopped dead away and jumped off like I was on fire.

“My son doesn’t eat chips with the same veracity any more, boohoo.”

Support is “I love my son and am committed to getting him qualified help and helping him to be better in the future.” It is not calling sexual assault “twenty minutes of action” that “wasn’t violent.”

This Turner guy may have only spent 20 minutes assaulting his victim before he was interrupted, but I can guarantee you it took 20 years to get him to be the type of loser to think it was ok. Thanks, dad.

There’s a fair bit of literature that shows that most rapists don’t believe they’re rapists, though they will admit to having, for example, forced a woman to have sex, or had sex with a woman too drunk to give consent. There’s also a fair bit of literature that shows that an even higher number of men would do these…

Ummmmm I’m pretty sure it’s because of alcohol consumption and sexual promiscuity like the father said.

That is not defending the child’s crime, that’s defending the entire concept of rape.

Maybe that would be Todd Akin’s famous “legitimate rape”.

Happy-go-fuck yourself, sir.

“It’s not like he was raping her for days, you know? He’s not some kind of sexual pervert. It was just a good-natured drunken mistake. Like that one time when I went to our neighboring college and stole their mascot. OOOHBOY WAS THAT A NIGHT! But should that be held against me for my whole life? No, and my father took…

This makes me so angry I can barely breathe. Hey Shitbag! This is 1/1000th of what it’s like to live with being raped EXCEPT YOU FUCKING DID IT.

What an excellent point! I mean, it’s not like he spent an hour raping someone. That’s a completely different class of rape! *Eyeroll.*

Takes a lot less than 20 minutes to kill someone, and you don’t see murderers trying to pull this excuse.

Gee, I can’t imagine how this guy thought raping someone was ok with a father like that. Clearly he grew up learning how to take responsibility for his actions, among other lessons on how to be a decent human being.