It’s complicated, but passion and sex are two completely different things, and I guarantee having more sex isn’t going to solve this problem of his feeling he ‘lacks passion,’ Having been around the block a few times before, it sound to me like this relationship is winding down, and he is beign pretty honest with you…

This is what she sent after which is even more amazing:::;

I agree. I’ve never said out loud that I might want to break up and then didn’t eventually break up with the person. Sucks, but it’s true.

The last guy I dated was the same way - I finally kissed him on our third date and he enthusiastically reciprocated. Turns out he was trying not to be pushy or make me feel like he felt entitled to physical rewards for being a gentleman. So yeah, enjoy the sweetness and know he probably wants kisses too!

oh my god thank you for sharing this. I love your ex-stepmom and you!

Been there, done this, got the cat in the end so I call it a win.

Can you be one of the speakers at the event and give a short talk about this? It sounds like they need it, and it’d be a tidy way to come out as a non-hugger at the same time. Would only need a few minutes, it might still be possible to work it into the schedule.

If you’re reading this I hope it’s not too late!

You could kiss him (assuming that’s what you want). Or you could ask him why he hasn’t made a move yet.

People like to hug at my job. So when someone would go in for one I started stepping back and saying “sorry not a hugger” with a laugh. I have a rep as being the one that doesn’t hug but everyone knows and respects it now. I had a nosy coworker question me about it “I just wonder why you are like that.” (I said “I…

Jezzies, gone on three dates with a great guy. He is doing everything right. Yesterday he came over for early dinner (had to go to a work thing later), was his usual sweet self, great time as always, BUT, he still hasn’t kissed me!

That’s my first instinct. Actually my first instinct is to shout “Don’t touch me” but I push that down. I’m just worried that I’ll get a reputation as unfriendly or difficult.

You’ve got Amy Sedaris as your profile picture, you can absolutely be my kid.

Fun fact: Ira means ire in Spanish. You’ve certainly conjured it.

This is an email I got from by ex-stepmother. She’s a lot older than us and such an inspiration and support to me that I got permission to share this with all of you. We all need this kind of perspective in life. She is over 60 but less than 80. That is all I can say.

Ooh, those eyes. That look. You will never see his plot coming. You will probably not even realize it’s happening until it’s all over, and you are picking the shards of your life out of the ceiling.

Don’t mind me. I’m just sitting in a hotel room with room service (Eggplant pita bread and red wine) after my swim and now I’m staring at a beautiful view and I feel like a goddamn queen. #hotelbrag

I appear to be in the process of ending my five year relationship because my man “doesn’t know what he wants.” If he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me after five years, I can’t see that he ever will know. And I think I’ve waited long enough.

Fellow Jezzies and GT’ers! PLEASE put me in the black!

oh dear, that sub would be attacked all the time unless it’s a closed sub. i’d be down for that.