I think you should definitely consider counselling and at the minute you two just don’t seem to be communicating effectively- it appears like you’re doing a lot of the emotional labour in the relationship and also a lot of guesswork on what he’s thinking so you have something to base that labour on. With the added…

I love it when people I admire from afar don’t disappoint when you meet them, I’m ridiculously and completely disproportionally happy that he seems nice! haha :)

oh wow, so it must be true! They must have talked about it at the meetings.

But I mean...we don’t know that. You can say it would have been better to tell her family at the time but what are you basing that on? If it happened in my family I would objectively say that yes, talking about it would be the difficult but sensible way to go but I know a LOT of families where there is no way I would…

I’m tending to agree with the other commenters, sister first. But I’d add that doesn’t mean she can’t also take it upon herself to talk to her niece should her sister stick her fingers in her ears and pretend everything’s fine.

pretty much...

Eermmmm, OK.

euuugh, why can’t there be more episodes of this in my life?!?

I don’t know if that was a purposeful smart girls reference but damn I love me that AskAmy series <3 (And you’re totally right).

so true. SO true.

I just get the feeling he’s becoming intimately aware of how amazing his wife/their real relationship was and how he’s probably never gunna get that again. This screams classic “I’m totally fine. Look how great my life is. Honest!!!” behaviour to me :(

ABC says he was c-section...thank god.

I’m sorry but really...HOW do the Olsens look that alike?!? There is no way they are not identical twins.

that sounds great, he can’t argue with that. (probably because it’s true...) But he’d have hard time trying to act like you’re overeacting to that! haha

Wow. That was beautiful! My reply is going to seem woefully inadequate in comparison but what you’re saying really resonates. And, like I say, was articulated so eloquently. It’s truly lovely to think of a collection of positive occurrences providing that kind of empathy within so many people (rather say a tragic…

I replied to a comment above but I’d like to add that also in my experience quite often guys kinda assume they HAVE to say the casual thing. Because “that’s obviously what guys like” (?!) its so ingrained. Even if that’s not what they actually want, some people are relationship people, but guys aren’t really given…

YES. Yes to ALL of this. I also think that quite often as women were labelled “emotional” so we’re the ones who are gunna fall in love or get too involved or be too clingy and when we’re not...I think a lot of guys (and gals) can feel insecure about it. (Even if it was previously agreed that it was completely casual.)

I have honestly been looking forward to Ramadan so much! I’m not religious myself but I swear for a month of fasting... SO MUCH FOOD IS EATEN!!! It’s so great.

THIS IS SUCH AN AMAZING REVIEW. Seriously. I really like this.

i’m glad it went kinda ok. Today’s the 4 year anniversary of my mum dying and I feel kinda weird . (I’m not saying it’s the same just sorta on the spectrum of relatable.) Its weird the things which affect you/become big things, my mum loved anything salty. <3