I don't follow the logic that because she was respectful in letting him down, she is absolved from the wrong of manipulating his emotions for her own personal benefit. In the universe of wrongness, this is a very low level offense, but that doesn't make it right. I also don't follow the logic that he has "slut shamed"…

Just another bloke who got dragged in by the trending section, but the way this article was written about the subject made me go,
"Huh?"
Yeah, for all I know since I don't watch the show, it was "slut shaming" or whatever, but the tone of the quoted context leads me to believe the guy had sincere feelings for this…

incredibly well said! the few people on these comments boards that agree with the original jezebel writer on this....should all be forced to read your comment.

I don't like you saying that Nick was slut shaming her at all. I really don't care for that and you need to check yourself. He was broken hearted and I get the sense that he is a very caring person. I would have asked the same thing because I don't fuck people I don't love.

Kate.....stand down. She lead Nick on...maybe for the show's sake. These are two ppl, two adults. She told Josh that she loved him from the moment she saw him. There is nothing wrong with that or her sleeping with Nick.

I think a lot of us girls have been in his shoes (lord knows I have.....multiple times). When someone has sex with you, they clearly don't have to be in love with you, but you at least think they might actually be interested. When that doesn't turn out to be the case, it is hurtful. It's very interesting (refreshing?)…

Exactly, had the tables turned, Andi would have been the guy that took advantage of the situation. I'm applying the same logic here.

That's what happens to me! I'm at IO9 or Giz and then I get distracted. I've never even seen a Bachelors show. WTF am I doing here?

People call Nick a sociopath, but who fakes feelings for someone when you already made your mind up that you like the Hot Failed Athlete? When she told him she was never in love with him, THAT was below the belt. Why sleep with him then if you're sooo in love with someone else and you know this guy is not going to…

That made me out the biggest HA! last night. The entire relationship was for the cameras. You refused to see him in person TWICE. That was your chance to keep things private, asshole.

Sex is definitely a way of getting to know someone. But I think all people have a responsibility to be aware of how their actions affect other people's feelings. (No one's responsible for another person's feelings, of course, but I think it's disingenuous to completely disavow the relationship between your actions and…

Sometimes I fucking hate the over-the-top feminism on display at Jezebel. I can't understand the idea of "slut-shaming" in regards to this story. I do not watch the show but can appreciate the detailed recap of this relationship. Why, because this man is hurting and therefore speaking out of that hurt and anger,…

What a person showing too much emotions and and clearly not being in control of them seems like something a sociopaths does?

YES. All of this. I've been in situations like this, I've been the Nick, and it SUCKS. You just feel lead on. Seeing other comments telling him to man up or that he's being a baby for being hurt by this is so not okay with me.

I don't know about sociopath, but he is creepy and he seems really immature. His whole little fit over the mime thing showed us a long time ago that Nick is not happy when he doesn't get what he wants. We saw a lot more of that last night. It's totally reasonable to be upset when your girlfriend decides she's in love…

I have to disagree with this. I have no objections to women having casual, no-strings-attached sex. That's totally fine. But only when BOTH parties know that's what it is. I didn't watch the show, but it seems to me that this guy had very real, deep feelings for Andi, and it's clear from his quotes that this wasn't…

Yes, exactly! I think it's worth bearing in mind that he started his statement with "Knowing how in love with you I was." If he had just said "if you weren't in love with me, I'm just not sure why, why you made love with me?" then yes, I'd say he was trying to embarrass her by saying she's a slut for having sex with…

It's Jezebel. You have to throw in the "slut-shame" buzzword in order to get an article about "women" and "sex" published.

"'First of all, I think that's kind of below the belt. That's something that should be private,' she said," on national television.

I don't think he was trying to slut shame her. I think he was asking why she would do that, knowing how he felt about her, because it would give him hope, or he felt lead on by that. He was clearly vulnerable to her and cared about her a lot. If the roles were reversed I know I wouldn't want to feel like a notch on…