Except, as far as the guests know, it's just an ordinary potluck and not a wedding. Do you get all up on your high horse when someone invites you to an ordinary potluck because they have the gall to ask you to bring food?

I don't think you really understand how potluck works.

Well, then you're awfully cynical and tied up in material things, frankly. If potlucks were the norm you'd be bleating about people that accepted wedding gifts as being selfish. You have this preconceived notion that a "wedding" involves catering and a fancy venue and very particular bells and whistles that I am…

Agree! Anyone who does not want to be there shouldn't come. I have declined wedding invites simply because I was not interested in going or didn't feel like traveling. I sent a polite card and gift. Nothing wrong with that.

Precisely. When I got wedding invites and I was single and I knew I wouldn't know anyone else there? I didn't go. I did that once and had a terrible time. It was God awful. So I never did it again. But I didn't expect a plus one.

Are you out of your mind? You know how many expenses a traditional wedding foists on the guests, and particularly the bridal party? Gifts,bridesmaid dresses/shoes, the bridal shower, the bachelor/bachelorette party? And the parents traditionally put big bucks into the wedding food and flowers and everything as well.…

Here's the thing, you know your "audience" so to speak. I say, why not? You should go for it.

I went to a super fun potluck wedding at a beautiful state park once. It can be awesome for the right crowd. My sense was that everyone enjoyed being a big part of someone else's joy.

The food is in place of bringing a gift. So instead of springing for a $50 food processor, you put $15 into a casserole. Sounds like a good deal to me.

I don't know, I'm not the etiquette queen, but it seems like if you aren't expecting your guests to show up with gifts (because it's an ambush wedding) and you also aren't demanding fancy foods, that it would be more ok to do a potluck?

I am very fortunate to never having had to deal with that sort of situation, but every time I read about the horrible ways various colleges and universities deal with sexual assault on campus, I wonder - why is it the school and not the city police that makes the decisions? Why couldn't the author of the post go…

I went to a potluck wedding years ago, the bride was First Nations and said it was a part of her culture. It was awesome! Something tasty in lieu of gifts!

Sorry, but if the bride expects everyone to wear a $600 suit, the bride can pay for it. That dog, as we say, will not hunt.

I need advice, y'all.

Here's my plan if/when I get married. Nice big backyard. Potluck table. I'll spring for the booze, and rent a mic and speakers and have an open-mic with my musician friends. Then we all get drunk, and at one point in the night, I get up in front of the mic w/ the theoretical dude and make a heartfelt speech that…

I can't tell you how many times I've heard things like, My mom is insisting on inviting my aunt that I don't know very well, she's taking over my wedding! and then you find out that mom's paying for the whole thing. Shut up, say thank you, and invite your aunt. For fifteen grand your mom could've insisted on picking…

15. Don't take money from anyone for the wedding if you don't want them to have a say in the proceedings.

I loved planning my wedding. And I am the crafty type... almost every doggone thing was made or re-purposed. I loved planning my wedding so much, that I have actually started my own business. Consignment and Design. I'm taking what I love, and running with it!

As to 13, yeah, I get that. I kept the decor simple. It…

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