My little sis is the singer in a band of otherwise all dudes, and she gets this shit on the reg. Always with the hand in her face while they're loading in, going, "only THE BAND can come in now!" She's like, "I AM THE BAND, BITCH!"

THIS WAS AMAZING! I grew up in a music junkie family, with a dad who played guitar, a brother who later followed suite, and then eventually picked up drums myself. If you're a girl, and a drummer, expect a SHIT TON of crap from the guys you play with. Oddly enough, if you can withstand it, work your ass off, prove…

But they don't understaaaaaaaand it like I do. They probably had an easier time in high school and can date anybody they want to and don't even really "get" it, you know?

This sounds remarkably like the kind of shit that Patricia Hernandez catches from misogynist commenters over at Kotaku. really, it sounds like the same shit that any woman is in danger of getting hit with for daring to write about video games.

This reminds me of the shit that women get when they discuss anything else. And people wonder why women just want a modicum of acceptance in other communities like "nerd" hobbies?

AAAAAAALL OF THIS!! Being a woman who makes/writes about/enjoys music, especially music that tends to have more dudes involved than ladies (metal) makes girls like me a target. Because clearly we're:

1. Whores
2. Are only involved because we have boobs
3. Only got to where we are because of boobs
4. Only have fans because…

I like to think that has to with his Buddhism, and his Suluness.

George Takei is a perfect human being.

Although I am sure there is someone in this family waiting in the wings to take over and continue the hate-filled-nonsense-spewing... for now my sentiment is:

"Don't put metal in the science oven he says"

Yeh, how do you make popcorn with a toaster oven?

"If your partner responds badly/nonsensically to logic and honesty, or if they shut down, they are not in a place for a relationship or they're an *sshole."

You're friend needs to grow up and end the relationship. He knows he's leading her on, which is a dick thing to do, no matter how flawed she may be.

I'm a big fan of telling/being told the Truth. I'm honest in a way that you'd think would foster 2-way honesty. Yet for all the talk about how transparency is healthier, I find people often don't want it. I repeatedly have partners who prefer the don't ask/don't tell system of communication. I'm totally cool if my…

Corollary to the above: Take what the other person says at face (or text) value. Don't try to read anything more into it. If the other person doesn't say what they mean, then it's on them to issue a correction.

Yeah. My only bit of mild eyebrow raising was over the amount of money they spent because I'd hope for different results for that much, but hey, they seem to be rocking out by their own standards, so okie dokie. Now, if they're jerks, I get to be slightly more judgey, but without proof of that, I'll stick to a…

As is so often the case with plastic surgery, I think they were way cuter before than after.