I haven’t commented in an eternity and I’m pretty sure I’m still grey here. But my fiancé very suddenly broke our engagement and moved out last night. I feel really broken and sad and I’m not sure where to go from here.

This was my first thought too. I minored in gender studies and a “big paper” in one of the introductory courses was like, 7-10 pages. If that takes him literal weeks to compose then he has bigger problems than being uninterested in feminism.

Yeah, I went to Catholic school for my entire pre-collegiate education and in both high school and junior high it was something they only briefly referenced, probably for fear it would sound like a great idea to young girls who were prone to disordered eating.

There’s also a lengthy history of eating disorders being sort of coded in religious terms vs scientific. There’s a handful of Catholic saints who suffered from “anorexia mirablis” which basically means they starved themselves for spiritual purposes.

Yeah I was using anti-vaxxer in the pejorative..

Grayson for a girl sounds like a name only an anti-vaxxer would choose.

Right? I mean nothing against Kris, but given the option I would definitely hit on Betty White before her. She’s a goddamn gem.

Yeah I’m of the mind that we know this shit happens - like, a lot - so can we actually do something beyond talking about it?

I’m not sure the images really work, though. Not only is he just photoshopping random famous women who, as far as I know, have never been abused. But these pictures also depict what I imagine people who haven’t experienced domestic violence expect it to look like.

If the kind of sex you’re having requires that volume of information, that’s your prerogative. The only thing I absolutely need to know about my partners before we’re intimate is if they have any STDs, and I don’t think that’s especially unusual or naive. Not everyone has the same standard of what is and is not…

I think it was on one of the pieces published yesterday about this, but at some point there was a totally bonkers comment thread vacillating between “make sure not to kink shame!” to “you need psychiatric help for your rape fantasy and you can’t possibly be a rape survivor” as if there was no in between. It was…

Personally, I’m pansexual so the genitals someone has or the gender they identify as has virtually nothing to do with whether I’m attracted to or want to fuck them. I get that for straight people and even some gay folks this isn’t the case, and that’s fine.

I would agree with that. Sex work is a lot different than a bar hook-up and the level of transparency required is surely not the same. The commenter I was responding to seemed to imply that they would expect that level of disclosure from a potential romantic partner (I think) so my response was more along those lines.

If that works for you, then that’s fine. People can navigate their romantic and sex lives however they please, but I personally think the notion that people must disclose their exact anatomy is a little ridiculous. What if your potential partner was intersex? Gender identity and even biological sex aren’t always black…

Idk. You (not you as in specifically you, but the more general “you”) obviously have a right to decide you’re not interested in sleeping with someone for any reason whatsoever, but I don’t think people are necessarily obligated to inform a date what their genitals look like ahead of time.

I mean, I get the vibe Jezebel probably isn’t a big Tebow fan given that he’s outrageously anti-choice and a fundamentalist Christian. So that’s probably fueling the snark a bit.

Thank you for saying this. As a survivor of acquaintance rape, I find it especially disturbing when people swear up and down an accused rapist can’t possibly be guilty because they’re superficially charming/conventionally attractive/successful, or whatever other positive descriptors get thrown around.

Omg, I thought I recognized him but I didn’t realize he was the pre cum stain defender. If I wasn’t already inclined to flag his comments, I would be now...

That’s fair, and I definitely don’t think the juxtaposition of her and the Jenner sisters would make sense. It just bums me out that people seem so aggressively bothered by them. This probably isn’t the best example of that, but I don’t get it in general. They’re just a bunch of ridiculous reality TV fixtures.

Yeah, it sorta looks like she went wayy overboard on the cheek bone contouring, which is a really easy way to age yourself a decade.