Yoana's discussions

I think Portman was talking about the phenomenon of insisting women be sexy but not sexual. Like, you’re supposed to signal your sexual availability but if you act on it, you’re shamed as a slut. Signalling to teens that they should put in an effort to be sexually appealing, and then sermonising about the evils of bein… Read more

No. No, it is not possible to have a healthy diet that is 2/3 liquid and even wondering about that shows just how widespread and normalised disordered thinking about food has become. Eating is good. Not eating isn’t a virtue. It’s denying your body nutrition. There’s no positive spin you can put on that.

“it’s like one of the most violent crimes in the world” Read more

The sound is better. Or so my vinyl-obsessed friend with a huge record collection says.

They’re just immersed in a completely different scene. I actually think the fact that they’re musicians and spend most of their time making and performing music makes this more likely, not less - they do this as a job, not as a background to their lives, so they’re deliberate in what they pick to listen to. I can well… Read more

I wonder if you’ve changed your stance at all in 2017, with Trump as president, Mike Pence who wouldn’t dine alone witha woman as VP and rape as a pre-existing condition...

I’m not an American! I think that explains it.

That’s propaganda. It’s also blatant lying, how is it allowed?

Thank you. I thought this would be more widely understood in a feminist-leaning comment space, instead I see it’s still stuck mostly on the simplistic understanding that allowing for any difference between the male and female experience, regardless of circumstances = sexism. But the idea that women actually tend to… Read more

That’s exactly the way people talk about victims of domestic abuse. “If she didn’t want to be hit, she should have left, she’s an adult.” Maybe it’s not that easy. We don’t really know what goes on in private between them.

Yes, I don’t know how the theory of possible abuse doesn’t prop up more often. I mean, we’ve all heard how he talks about women in general, how unlikely is it that he’s abusive to the one he’s married to? And if that’s the case, then the reason she doesn’t leave may be similar to why most abuse victims don’t leave.

Yeah but he was well-connected in Hollywood because of his family so he could have had the power.

The West Wing plays in Bulgaria. Which makes me think it probably plays in a lot of other places, too. But it doesn’t really sound like Martin Sheen to me either.

I think that was a different man - the radar article says a producer, while the A-lister it’s about raped him when he was in his mid-teens: Read more

And it said Haim thought he was in love with him at first. I think this is significant because it indicates it would be more likely to be someone closer to Haim’s age, so perhaps someone who’s in his 50s now.

Perhaps he hit one of them. That would be a deal-breaker to many people.

You know what, the more I think about it the more it sounds like you’re right. The “revered by millions” bothered me but the “around the globe” part makes it more believable - outside of the US, Sheen isn’t nearly as widely condemned, at least from what I’ve been able to observe. The thing that’s most telling though… Read more

Could it happen on set if he was friendly with people who worked on the set? If he was this hugely influential figure, perhaps he had access to various sets?

It specifically says it’s a family man facade. Which means that would be one of his recognisable features, and that’s not true of Sheen - I don’t think he’s ever used his family status, while he had it, as a facade.

“Revered by millions around the globe” made me think of Bruce Willis, because of the Die Hard franchise. I don’t think he would have been that powerful in the early 80s though.