DeBecker recommends NOT blocking your stalker. He says to keep one line of communication open to the stalker, but make sure it is one that you don’t access daily. Then every once in a while, check it to see if your stalker has threatened you or escalated on it. The reason is because if you flat-out block the stalker,…

LW1 - Consider seeking out legal counsel who specializes in assisting crime victims. The attorney can provide you with more advice about your options in your area. If you and the lawyer decide to pursue contacting police, you tend to get a better response when you have a knowledgeable lawyer with you. Maybe contact…

She was also really vague about what happened at her old job that caused them both to leave and have him “twist the nature of the relationship” in his head. I’m sure that it was more than just “organizational changes” and we’re missing something here. I’m not saying she had an affair with him or anything, but this…

It might also be a good idea to disclose the situation to her current boss, as a preemptive defense if he does try to interfere with her position.

Can I afford to take him at his word that he meant it all to be a joke and had no idea I would take it this way and wouldn’t do it again?

If they came by USPS, call your local postmaster. Believe it or not, the PO takes malice by mail quite seriously.

I had that thought too. These two incidents are not the kind of thing stalkers usually start with. I would bet the browser history on his computer would be very illuminating.

I suspect that the first letter-writer’s old boss was harboring some creepy feelings for her, and couldn’t handle her working for someone else. Wouldn’t be surprised if he found other ways to stalk her, sexually harass her, and try to sabotage her employment. She needs to stay away from him and ignore all contact from…

Yeah, the fact that he drove to her local post offices to mail the packages is what makes this even more concerning. Sounds like he’s stalking her and going through quite a bit of trouble to do it.

It’s hard to burn bridges, but could you ever really trust giving as a reference someone who’d anonymously mailed you a sex toy and a douche?

I would encourage the first letter writer to read Gavin de Becker’s book “The Gift of Fear.” He has some good advice there about dealing with inappropriate and/or stalker-ish attention. Some of it is counterintuitive (for instance, he argues that restraining orders do more harm than good), but he explains his…

Yeah, those “prank” packages are just the beginning—or more likely the middle—of an escalation.

and his wife finally got him to confess to sending me “practical joke packages” (for the record, I don’t know if he told her what was in them),

Maybe the first letter writer should just go straight for a restraining order. Seems like the most appropriate course of action, as I don’t know what the police would do exactly (generally, police departments don’t always know how to handle stalking or even take it seriously, which is what I’m guessing this would fall…

When I saw that you wrote this headline (and subsequent article), I heard “Only YOU can cover Megyn Kelly Today” in the voice of Smokey the Bear. So there’s that. Love you Bobby! Never stop never stopping.

and Ivanka on the cover.

#neverforget

I have absolutely not made peace with Justin’s early career hair don’ts. Or that denim suit.

Yes! Finally, some love for pilates. The best exercise!

Those trolls better come to machine Pilates with me. I will laugh to watch my trainer - who also trains the Ailey dancers - whip some troll ass.