There are shitty fathers. There are fathers who have affairs. They are not always the same thing. I would guess that even if your father had not cheated, he would still have been a shitty father.

Disagree. My love for my child is unconditional— nothing he could ever do would cause me to stop loving him. Our relationship is one of caretaker/teacher/mentor and child. With my spouse, it’s totally conditional— We have to work each day to care for each other, be supportive, and cultivate the life we want together.…

I’m curious: Do you apply this logic across all breaches of trust? Does someone who cheats on their taxes also automatically fall into the “terrible parent” category? And if the writer turns out to also be shitty, selfish, and dishonest in other ways— should they just turn the child over to the state because they…

Fair callout. What I meant to say is that I hope he actually does the therapy and for the right reasons, not that he is just saying it because it’s what he thinks he has to say to get out of trouble.

I agree that this marriage is probably toast. But the relationship between husband and wife is separate from the relationship between father and child. It’s very difficult and painful to do but many parents have to find a way to put aside their own anger and hurt from their failed marriage so that their child can form…

“They can’t find anyone else to do this shit; only the inbred troglodytes.”

Wow. No.

My point is that if he wants a divorce, it doesn’t really matter if she wants to try and save the marriage.

...Which makes sense if there weren’t a child involved. “Winning the divorce” is not worth having an awful co-parenting relationship.

“All the smart people are busy creating and producing...”

Not to mention paved roads, street lights, a fire department, school crossing guards...

I’m not responding to that douche’s original comment because douche. I am fully supportive of kids getting used to the idea that they deserve food. And that hunger is not a feeling they should ever have to become accustomed to.

My brain read that as Jon Lovitz and I was so very confused.

Thank you for pointing this out. It’s not like there was a swift response to the gross abuse of power here. It took the public release of the video to have anything happen.

I’m not even hating on it because it’s Taylor Swift and it’s cool to hate on her. I legitimately dislike the song.

I hope Des Moines is everything you hoped it would be. (I assume you did this to move to Des Moines.)

My toddler saw a pic of Trump today and asked who he was. I paused and said No One. Because I could not bring myself to say he was the president.

... Until it gets through the courts and is thrown out. But not before we waste tons of taxpayer money trying to defend it.

This. I don’t think the country would be so outraged if the person who died had been black.