Exactly. Messy is a pile of clothes on the floor or toys not put away. Dirty (weeks old) dishes, animal waste, and literal garbage everywhere...that’s beyond messy.
This is all going back to what I said on the last post: this isn’t about the parents, it’s about the kids. Hire a housekeeper… for the kids.
Animal pee in the kitchen sink isn’t ‘messy’, its ‘dirty’ and a health hazard.
How does a person with a functioning brain not know how to clean?
Hire a housekeeper. I get it, you’re busy and you never learned how to clean a house. Everyone will also chime in to say your husband could do it and so on. Okay. Still, hire a housekeeper. Knowing CPS won’t get involved in your parental rights is a low standard to set for yourself.
If it is a dumpster fire, it is well deserved. I am a Black woman, 43, not affluent and survived various forms of abuse in childhood. I was raised by a single mother in generally poor, minority neighborhoods. These folks don’t get a pass from me.
No, the comment section correctly called out myopic naval gazing thinkpieces that apologised for child abuse. Jez should be absolutely ashamed for enabling this.
The NYT had a fantastic story about CPS and their “Jane Crow” bias against poor minority mothers. That story did a good job of finding black women who had their kids taken away for things like having a little pot on them when they are with their kids or a little kid getting outside on their own-things that happen all…
“By my second time in court, I also learned that the judge I had had a reputation for being tough. She expected parents to be accountable for their actions and address the issues that had brought them to her court.”
That second essay was nicer to read than the first. The father was against so many biases, yet he kept coming. His perseverance obviously changed some minds in his case. Plus, he seemed to have a much better understanding of what he was responsible for, what he did wrong and what he did right. I am so happy that his…
Oh sweet, I’m affluent?
I found the second story very interesting since it does mention the biases people have to deal with in the system, and the father also admitted his own faults when he realized his kids felt they had to parent their own addicted parents and how he’d tried buying their love until realizing their own behavior was the…
I’m kinda in the same boat, feelings wise.
You know what? I’m perfectly fine with the fact that people who have been convicted of neglect can’t get jobs caring for children and the elderly.
“Normally I just use dog whistles. Using actual slurs is completely out of character for me.”
“I regret what I said deeply and I am not the racist the media portrays me as.”
I bet this dude has put at least 7 rants about ”personal responsibility” on his Facebook in the past.
Drives me nuts, people who can’t own up. They’ve decided that, since they’re the protagonist of the little drama that is their life, and the protagonist of a story is the hero, it follows that all their actions are heroic and any opposition is villainous.
I didn’t think humanitarian aid after a massive disaster was “political bullshit”, but apparently even helping other human beings is now partisan.