“We aren’t in the same situation as working class whites, and we have never been.”

Yeah - in no time we will have some people up in here bitching about “identity politics.” For anyone non-white, non-straight, non-cis, or non-man, that’s just “politics.”

I’ll preface this by stating that I am a black leftist.

I think they fullyunderstand and simply don’t give two shits.

And that’s what Bernie and his minions still don’t understand.

Are you for real? It’s not classism to think that a family who shows up with absolutely nothing - no stroller, no carseat, nothing to transport the baby in, are being negligent. ‘I’m sure they’ll do better next time’ isnt good enough where kids are concerned. that’s the point of these stories.

Makes me wonder if the visits and calls stopped because the child wanted them to. Having nightmares because someone was going to take them away from their home. Just wanting to be a normal kid who could play soccer on the weekends instead of going to the prison.

Okay, as someone who takes public transportation because I can’t afford the car, who sees families with strollers all the time on it, this isn’t classism. No. The bio family was being dumb and thoughtless with *weeks* of time to think of it and that doesn’t bode well for the baby.

Her point is that they didn’t bother to bring anything for the baby, like a stroller, or anything to carry all of the baby supplies the foster family was giving them. Even though they knew for weeks that they would be picking up the baby and her stuff. Common sense is pretty important when it comes to babies.

one sentence was especially reveiling:
“He watched me sing so intently, staring up at me as if I was the sun, moon and stars all rolled in one.”
we applied for adoption and have heard this so many times: women who had no means to raise a child but hesitated to put their child for adoption used to say or write this -…

My niece right now is having problems with eating, sleeping, and toilet training at an age when those are all the things. My psycho sister decided it’s all the grandparents’ faults and cut off the whole rest of the family except to demand money. Her husband hides in the garage to sneak calls to his own parents and…

You don’t have to defend them. They got the baby, despite their total lack of preparation or common sense.

Seriously, I’m kind of blown away that she still expects to be seen as a parent after over a decade of separation. The self centered nature of this thought process is not striking a sympathetic note with me at all. Most of the stories in this series don’t.
 

I’m from the Midwest and my experience with CPS in this area matches what you say. At least, for white parents. If your mother lost her parental rights.....well, I can only imagine how awful things were.

it’s not that they take the bus, it’s that they didn’t put any thought whatsoever into getting the baby and its gear home safely

It wasn’t so much that they took a bus, but they took the bus knowing they were going to pick up a baby along with a bunch of her things (clothes, food, etc), and had no way to bring it all back - and the bus stop was a bit far from their house, and weren’t physically capable of carrying the baby distance, yet not…

The only one thus far that I REALLY felt for was the one who’s kid randomly got a fractured skull, but had no idea how it happened because she wasn’t around when the injury happened and nobody would fess up about dropping the baby.

These cases are once again making me wish we had the childrens’ perspectives on the situation. I’m reading this and wondering how long a child should remain linked with an incarcerated parent, especially if others are stepping in to be their parents. Childhood lasts such a short time, how fair is it to children to…

I was adopted as an infant, but know my biological family and I totally agree.

I dunno, you could construe this as a threat, even a violent one given what they were doing, which is a matter the police should be involved in.